Where's Waldo anyone? Advice needed!

I've been in a serious reltionship for 9 months now but I have a problem, he likes to disapear on me. I once spent a full 24 hours calling his friends Having panic attack after panic attack searching for him. When I finally find him he always tells me the same thig that he will never do it again. But he does. I find that everytime he does this it's right after he fights with his parents but why should I be caught in the middle? All I want is a phone call! Help please!

 

elaborate on "disappear"

 

Wow, that sucks. Some guys are just difficult. I'm not sure, you need to really emphasize to him that you need a phone call just to know he's okay. Maybe you should disappear for a while and see how he likes it

 

No phone call or anything. Doesn't answer my calls. I'll call all of his friends none of them see him.

 

lol tried that. Problem is my world revolves around him. :/

 

how much time goes by in between you seeing him and you calling to find him?

 

3-2 hours. It's not like him not to call me unless he's pulling this. Other than that were together 24-7

 

okay i was afraid of this... that's not really a long time for someone to be gone... sounds like you need to loosen the grip a lil and try to relax when he's out and about.

otherwise just ditch him if it bothers you that much.

 

No he's gone missing for over 24 hours without any contact.

 

So what? You are neither his mother nor his prison guard.

You identified the problem, "Problem is my world revolves around him." and the problem is not his failing to check in with you.

Fix the problem that you can see. Revolve your world around something else.

His habits can't be changed, or, more accuratly, not by you.
He can't change your revolving around him.
And you can't change his reaction to stress.

 

Thanks MikeE that helped a bunch

 

Always glad to help someone who sounds a little like a stalker.

Sometimes devotion is confused with obsession.
And (sometimes) a little straight talk can cure confusion.