I've been dealing with this a lot lately, I'm not sure why it's come up so much recently, but I can't figure out if I'm a lesbian or not. Maybe I'm bisexual? I posted this is the coming out thread as well... any advice or insight is very helpful! Here are the things that make me think I am bi or a lesbian: When I find out someone if a lesbian I get a little flutter in my chest (although it could be me trying not to act uncomfortable and getting nervous) I fall in love with girls' personalities, I love little things about them and admire and want to be like them. Little touches totally give me mad butterflies I love to cuddle with girls I want girls to be attracted to me I had a sexy dream with a girl (no one I know) the other night and liked it I've only slept with two guys and didn't really enjoy it that much, but it's only two guys... maybe they were duds... haha I've never felt intensely about a man These are the things that make me think that I'm not: I'm physically attracted to men I love kissing men and touching them I love to cuddle with them When my girl friends are with guys I like the guys and I don't feel jealous I don't think I want to kiss girls, but the sexy dream made me want to I don't know at all. It's been causing a lot of inner turmoil lately. Does anyone have any insight? A girl that I've only met once and found out after that she was gay, was working with me today and I just wanted to flirt with her all day, but I don't think she wanted to flirt with me... I don't know. I am so confused. Has anyone else been through this?
Hmmm. I hope this doesn't end up to be an annoying, pointless rant that doesn't reach a conclusion. haha Let's see. I can relate to alot of the things in your first list. I love girls personalities, finding out that someone is lesbian does make me feel different, sometimes the touches do give me butterflies, i've had a FEW sexy dreams about girls and yes, woke up a little hot and bothered haha. On the other hand I have been in love with a guy and LOVED the sex we had. haha. Plus men turn me on aLOT. I questioned my sexuality alot for awhile, but basically reached the conclusion that I am in fact MOSTLY straight. I think that alot of people are attracted to both sexes but definitely prefer one to the other. I guess it's bisexuality, but not completely. Does that make sense?
That helps a lot, I was feeling pretty confused and like there was no one else like me, but it's nice to know that it's not that abnormal. Thank you!
I am in the same situation. Recently I have been questioning whether or not I might be bi. I do check out girls sometimes, admire their personalities and sometimes get those butterflies during long hugs and whatnot...however, I also get turned on by men, and I enjoy kissing them, touching, etc. I wouldn't mind kissing a girl but I can't really see myself going down on one. Anyway, you're not alone in being confused
Of course you are not abnormal! jajaja You are you and that's it. Don't label yourself. I like sex with girls and boys, in different ways. I know many people like me, and lesbians and gays too. And every one of them is different. If you feel like having sex with a girl, just do it. Same with boys. Both are nice. And if you fall in love, it doesn't matter the gender. Don't think a lot about it, just act like you feel and you won't regret nothing. And if you fail in something don't feel bad, you'll learn from your mistakes!
dont listen to them. what you are experiencing can only mean one thing. you are and always will be a lesbian. better register with the proper authorities
Leah, It seems to me that you may just be "bi-curious". Perhaps you could act on some of these feelings to get a better feel for what you're truly attracted to? I think all people have some sort of attractions torwards both the same and opposite sex, though it may be nearly non-existent, or drowned out in the social norms of our society. You just have to sort of experiment and find out what works best for you.
Definitely stop worrying about what you "are". That's the biggest freak out of all. Also, maybe stop looking in other peoples' pants to decide what your sexual preference is, and life will be so much easier. I've been attracted to sooooo many different people in my life, both men and women. I've learned that I would have missed out on a lot if I'd chosen one side or the other when I was hot for both. It's just genitalia. The heart and mind is where it's really at.
Sorry for being MIA, all of this helps a lot... it makes me feel a lot better. I'm just going to live my life and whatever happens happens. Thanks for all the advice!
