Girlfriend doesn't want me doing drugs anymore

Ay man, reality is beautiful when you make it as such, if all your friends do is drugs to have fun, well thats them, that's not you, you should just find a group that has similiar interests(other than drugs) and have fun with em, you won't be bored.

It's just change man, don't be afraid of it, embrace it, you'll be happier, it's not like you still can't smoke a bowl or trip here and there, just don't make it your whole life, cause when you get that one track mind, you miss track of all the other shit you could be doin to make you happy, and they would probably make you more happy than getting high all the time.

trust me, ive been there.

 

Between drugs and love... I'd take the drugs unless it was heart-popping-out-of-chest love.

 

I say drop her. She's just trying to manipulate you and women won't respect men they can manipulate. Drop her. btw: Who did he initial breaking up up you or her?

Now go find your g/f purse and get your balls back and dump her.

 

It depends what you really want to do, I mean does she mean more to you then drugs do? Drugs are something you may grow out of but will you grow out of loving her? I learned the hard way they know when you're doing drugs so maybe if you can't give up drugs maybe ask for a compromise? Like you only do it like once a week and don't drop acid anymore? I dunno, anyways good luck.

 

Seriously, this.

And besides, if she won't accept you for who you are- well the choice is clear, at least to me.

 

Now if you were doing meth,smack or large amounts of blow all the time she would have a point but you're just smoking ganja. She is moving away so why bother? There's plenty of fish in the sea.Set your hook for one that accepts you for who you are.

 

If you quit using drugs, do it for yourself, not for her. I would try to look deeper and see if she is truely trying to do this for YOUR benefit or just because shes trying to tell you to do something because she thinks she knows better than you, and is trying to control you. IMO its a personal choice that cannot be decided by someone else.

 

Doesn't sound like it's meant to be. By the way that you describe it also. It sounds like you like her, but you are not in love with her.

Even though my husband does not take psychedelics, he is still ok with me doing them. They are important in my life, and I believe I wouldn't be the same person w/out them. I like how I turned out in life and psychs had a huge part in that evolution. If she loved you, she would still let you do the things that are important to you in life. There are going to be things that you don't want her doing at some point in time... And you are going to have to decide if you want her doing them, relationships are a give - give situation all the way through life.

:cheers2:

 

i just got out of a relationship i had been in for four years. my boyfriend got gradually more and more controlling until he was asking me to stop smoking weed, then to stop drinking, then to stop going anywhere with my friends, then to stop talking to my friends. this started out slowly as gentle prodding and turned into him trying to control me completely. i didn't really listen to him and his stupid shit so one night he sent a text that said "this is a simple question: drugs or me?" i told him that i refused to answer such a stupid, dramatic question, so he sort of dumped me and told me that i was fat and ugly and that the only reason he could stand to look at me or be with me was that he had for some reason loved me at the time. he told me this after telling me for all that time that he wanted me to stop "using narcotics" or "being around bad people" because he LOVED ME. well, yeah right.

so, my advice to you if you plan to be with this chick is to not even let the manipulation get started. it may seem like no big deal now, as it did with my situation, but i promise that if she sees she can control you even a little bit she'll do it more and more until it becomes ridiculous.

all that said, i woulkd also like to add that if you love her (and i believe someone else mentioned this earlier) and if she makes you truly happy, then maybe it would be worth it to stay with her, but please, don't let her think she can control you, and don't stay in a situation you're not happy with. this guy was not providing me with much emotionally. i've never been on a real date and he never liked to try to make me happy. i only stayed with him for four years because i've never thought of myself as being attractive and i didn't think i'd find anyone else since i've never had any luck with men. but that was obviously a stupid reason to stay with a loser. i'm not afraid of being alone anymore, and i don't think anyone should be. sorry for telling you my life story, i just would hate to see anyone be controlled for four years like i was, with even the type of clothes you wear and music you listen to be dictated for you. not that i'm saying she will do any of this; just saying don't let her. peace

 

I hate the idea that when someone wants you to choose between drugs and them, its "who do you love more, drugs or me". Of course they're trying to test you, and how far you'll go for them, but I personally am unwilling to make my life worse just to prove a point. It's not that you love the drugs more, it's that that's not a choice you should have to make, it's not at all comperable.

It's always sad when you smoke bud with someone, and he acts like he's cheating on his girlfriend with marijuana. It's just not like that. You should ask her, what does she love more, you, or a silly ideal with no reason behind it?

It's not what do you love more, but whether or not she loves you for who you are.

And really, is she demeaning herself to the level of a chemical? reeeeallllly?

 

you're exactly right. so silly to compare a person and some weed. that's what i could never get my ex to see. it was like he just wanted me to be unhappy