impatient for a new lover-getting ppl to talk??

So on New Year's Eve I finally got to make out with this dude who I've been crushing on for a good six months, but he is a very good friend of my roommate and I also have a boyfriend of five years who I have lived with for the past three-four years.
My bf basically 'caught' me and this guy at 6:30 am on the front steps of our house still making out but he and I have discussed it and he's totally cool with the situation so long as I'm not sneaky about any of it. (We have had secondary relationships in the past but not with a mutual friend.)
I know its been only a day/two, but I need to talk to the guy about what is going to happen in the future, because he was super freaked about my bf and thinks my bf is going to sock him in the face for getting with me the entire time he walked me home on new year's day.
Additionally, I texted the dude today to see if he'd meet up with me so we can talk, but no response yet.
While he walked me home, he tried to convince me to not say a word about any of it no matter how I tried to tell him that my bf wouldn't be mad so long as I told him the truth.
I really want to start something with this guy on the side because he totally was suggesting he'd be down to sex me so long as I didn't say anything to my bf, but my bf isn't an idiot and definitely knew what was going on anyways when he found us on the steps. How can I get this sweet boy to contact me back and get started on making some love?

Also, I think my roommate is kind of pissed at me because he doesn't understand our relationship boundaries and maybe also because his friend was just dumped by his gf during Thanksgiving. What in the heck do I say to my roommate???

 

It's a male thing and new guy knows it intuitively. We males have been programmed to sock a rival male in the face. Been hardwired that way for over 50K years.

The only way to get around that is to have new guy over to have coffee and talk with you, bf and roommate. Get the boundaries of any relationship out in the open and in a sense ask the bf permission to bonk you. (Who knows maybe a 3 sum )

I have experienced such civility with another guy whose ol' lady I was fucking while he was away. I didn't know she had an ol' man until he showed up at their house. He was cool, didn't blame me or sock me in the face. In fact we became friends and I never fucked his ol' lady again because I understood the boundaries of their relationship. And he understood his ol' lady fucked every guy she met.

 

Well thank you Shale, I would love to get a good conversation going between these three fellows and myself, but new year's eve boy must be running scared right now and has not responded to three short text messages and one attempt to call him. (In these situations I can never seem to keep patient for very long, I guess its all my sexual chemicals making me antsy.) I told my bf about the lack of response and he thinks he ought to just call the guy, which I very much support.
And oh god, I would love a threesome...rettyplease:

 

"Let's fuck right now."

That should do the trick.

 

I'll try it, maybe tomorrow...even though I want it now.
But he is definitely afraid my bf is going to kick his ass for even touching me. and after my bf found us on the stoop, boy jumped down away from me, closed the front gate in between us and was obviously geeked that we "got caught". so my bf laughed at him and then went onto work, but boy came back after walking once around the block and came upstairs to my bedroom. he was still very turned on by me, but then suddenly my roommate (we didn't know at the time it was my roommate) made some kind of noise that scared the shit out of my lovely makeout partner who exclaimed "he's coming back and I'm in his room!", so boy hustled out of the apartment before he could hear my roommate tell me I was "being cutty".

 

Maybe he likes the idea of being sneaky.

 

Maybe he needs to grow a pair before he can start using them.

 

If he does they why be so afraid my bf would punch him in the face?
Also, it's been one week and I last sent him one text message on Wednesday morning asking if he would be going to my roommate's club event but he didn't respond and didn't go to the event.
I'm calling it quits with texting him or trying to call him until he decides to come over to the apartment to kick it with my roommate or calls me directly. I'm way too obsessive about crap like this and I just can't take the waiting for a response from Frenchie, it kills me to wait!