Hi guys, I have a little big problem... I have problems with living in society (and who doesn't? ), specially with my wife. I have wild desires sometimes, the "christian husband-wife love" don't suits me very well, because i have a wild mind. An example: I'm walking down the street and see a girl, then i give her a malicious sight, inconscious. And I do it all the time. Sometimes I have strong desires that are hard to hold, and most of them against usual morality. I have also a desire of being stone, hear Hendrix out loud, to get out runnign to nowhere for months, living in the wild. I really don't care about my car, clothes, elegant food for friends dinner. I not even have friends because i have not what to talk about with most of the people around me. Today happened again a discussion at my home, because of my wild behaviour. And want it's related to seeing nude girls, my wife really becames angry and sad. She said me that i'm making her sad and ashamed, time after time, and that it would be better to I move on. I like her, we are married since about 3 year and have a son of this same age. I really love him, and i love her too. I tried to be different, but this is inside of me. Unconsious. The point is not only about me being a little pervert and she not. It's just an exemple. We think ways so diffrent, near opposite many times. I feel locked with her, and it looks like she feels the same about me. Like a bird that choose to dont fly, something like that. Thinking well, i guess that it'd better to move and to do not stay with her no more, to let both of us be happy at it's own way. But what about my boy? If I go, how will i find him later? And if I find him, what will he think about me? Maybe it's better to still trying here to change my nature, making it hard to me and her even to live day after day? It's not the first time it happened, and I'm not the kind of people that make things with the flaming heart. I wanna make a decision of reason, to make a good thing for all. And I would really appreciate you talking about it. Thanks, people!
Tolerance. Probably all I can say. Without it, no relationships could happen. You should be more tolerant to her at times and she should do the same. Give her a massage when she's not expecting it or something like that. And try blocking your mind of that perverted stuff. Or maybe just ask her to do some of it with you if that turns you on. Whatever floats your boat.
you have an obligation to your son... don't fuck that up. if you do then you will have lost not just a wife, but your son, and your future in a strong family. strong families stay together through tough times.
yeah, thinking well about this yesterday, realized that in fact i was deciding only with my sensations, not with reason. I think that when you get married, you should build yourself up to make the life better to the persons of your family. Just getting away is just so selfish and hard-headed. I think that when do my boy grow up and become able of taking care of himself, and the same to my wife, then I can think about some wildlife. It doesn't matter if I'll be just an old bad-walking hippie instead a young one full of arrogance and with aa incomplete and all fucked up social/family life.
This is exactly why people should get a bunch of wildness done long before they ever think about settling down and getting married and having kids. Of course, for some people the urge for wild freedom just does not go away. They do not need to be having kids. Kids need stable families to grow up in. For the sake of the children, only people who want to settle down and have a family need be having any kids.
