So, here's my story... I met my friend D in high school. We always got along pretty well. He helped me get my first job, and when my family opened a restaurant I convinced my folks to let him work for us. I got him involved with this retreat group that I participate in with my family two weekends a year, and he's good friends with a lot of my friends and family members. Over the years we've started getting "touchy feely", but it hasn't culminated to anything serious. I'm not sure how I feel about actually dating him, but I sure as hell don't mind fooling around with him. My instincts tell me that he has a similar mindset, but I know I won't know for sure until it actually comes up in conversation. Yesterday, we were laying on his bed watching a movie, and when the movie ended things started heading towards a familiar direction. When we hang out, and before any clothing gets undone, there's this awkward moment where neither of us knows what to say or do. By this time my engine's revving and ready to go, and I can tell by his body language that he's good to go, too, but we always stumble through that brief moment of "uhh, what next?". What's the best way to let him know that I'm comfortable with him, and that I want to have fun and am willing to deal with the emotional consequences that might come from that fun? I never thought seriously about dating him, because we have such a great relationship as it is, but I'm willing to give it a shot (with hopes that we can remain friends if anything should happen). Yesterday, he was rubbing my stomach over the fly of my pants, and I smoothly asked "Want some help with that?". After I said that he unzipped my jeans, and helped me slide them off. He got his hand in my panties, but then his dad pulled into the driveway, and we were forced to stop. It's hard to formulate a concrete question. I guess I'm just looking for an outsider's opinion. I really do care about him, and I want to keep fooling around, but I'm afraid that signals might be getting misinterpreted. I know neither of us will know for sure what the other wants unless we talk about it, but I'm afraid that bringing it up randomly will ruin, or bring doubt into, the situation. I've only had one long term relationship (a little over a year), but we were seniors in high school, and didn't get passed the groping/making out/oral stage. I ended it, because he came out of the closet, and I wanted him to be happy. We tried to remain friends, but then he joined the Furry community, and we fell out of touch. Basically, I don't have much experience in the relationship department. Please, let me know what you folks think about my situation. I need opinions and advice. Thanks, CSNM
tell him to "whip it out" and give him a freebie... that should get things going in the right direction. avoid talking about it until you're well past fucking.
i'm so in a similar situation right now. but i figure when the right time for 'the talk' comes, the topic will come up naturally. if you try and address it prematurely, i think it could go awkardly. at least for me it always has in the past. are you happy with how things are now? ie. just the physical stuff, or do you want to head into a 'proper' relationship? i would say if you're happy with just the physical stuff, just relax and enjoy, when the time comes for things to move forward, it'll happen.
thank you guys, I just had incredible sex with said friend, it was like a scene from a favorite romance novel
