somewhat random blurb.... remembering a guy from many years ago.... sexual practices

Hello... I am mostly heterosexual and have lived that way my whole life.
In college I hooked up with a guy once, who I wound up really liking. He was very romantic and sweet. We didnt do very much but it was fun.
I have been thinking about him lately. Sometimes I wonder about finding out where he is and what he is doing. He gave me a lot of emotional things that I seem to have a hard time finding with women. Sorry to be rambly.
Anyway.... a question about sexual practices. I like the idea of oral and manual sex, but I dont like the idea of doing anything related to the anus. Is this common? Would it be unusual to be in a relationship or to hook up with someone occasionally and not want to do anything related to that?
Or course the official answer is "Do what you are comfortable with", blah blah, but what I mean is, in actual real life, how common is it for people to be happy with partners who dont want anything to do with the back door (either way)?

 

i wouldn't probably be with a guy who had an issue with anal sex, but that's me. It's just something i need and being with a partner who can't do it would make little sense. point is to communicate with your potential partner and to find out what he likes and doesn't like, what's acceptable and what is not, if there is such a thing. going in making bunch of assumptions will always have a probability of turning out differently and creating a whole lot of tension from miscommunication. be open about what you want.

 

I can definitely see how not having the kind of sex you need would be a deal breaker for a committed long term relationship...

But i'm just wondering about seeing someone occasionally from time to time... He could get all the other sex he wants elsewhere....

 

i think that is a matter of 'negotiation' as well.

 

I mean is, in actual real life, how common is it for people to be happy with partners who dont want anything to do with the back door (either way)?

Judging by the gay guys I know in both Europe and N. America, roughly, 1/5 of them are NOT into anything that has to do with anal sex.

No doubt, that this CAN be a deal-breaker for some people, in particular when it comes to commited, exclusively monogamous long-term relationships.

When it comes to casual sex, having a FB or a 'friend with benefits', etc., this is a matter of lesser importance by all means.

Gay porn tends to idolize a perfectly versatile man. In real life, most men do have their preferred roles and genuine versatility a la "everything and anything goes" is really a porn fiction...

KD