Do You Wear Shoes on a Date?

Someone asked me this the other day. Since I don't even own a pair, I would just go on a date barefoot. Could this be seen as disrespectful? I never really thought about it before. What about the rest of you? If you are going to the movies and/or a (non-fancy) eatery, would you wear shoes or just go barefoot on a first date?

 

Why do you make it such a big deal? By asking these things you are making the topic of being barefoot weirder in general, if you just go on with living your life, pretending that you are no different then people won't see you as different. Get what i'm saying?

 

Maybe have a pair of flip-flops handy. Just in case.

 

Well I think it would be realistic to not pretend to be someone else in any scenario. When you're on a date and you want someone to get you know YOU and you happen to normally go barefoot then you should definetly go barefoot on your date. No sense in hideing your feet she or he will eventually find out you prefer to be au natural.

 

FreshDacre, I think you have have taken a wrong turn somewhere. You are in the Barefoot Forum:

Forum Description: Discuss the joys and travails of going barefoot.

What kinds of topics would you like people to discuss in the "barefoot" forum? I don't make a big deal about it and as a matter of fact, it never occured to me to wear shoes on a date, since I don't even own a pair. I only posed this question because one of my non-hippie friends at school asked me. So, I was wondering if going barefoot on a first date is something the rest of you would do?

 

I love your posts jaime.

 

I know this is the right forum, but I'm just trying to say that if you be yourself and don't worry about your "style" or whatever, then people will like you anyways. I don't think you should wear shoes on a date, because you are a "barefoot person" however I would, because I usually wear shoes. I like the way wildflowers puts it.

 

I would if I did all the time like you. I just say bring flip-flops to go inside places that may enforce no-barefoot laws.

 

In the past I used to bring back-up flips, but my last pair of flips broke like 2 years ago and I haven't owned any shoes since. That's why I never really gave this question much thought. If I want to take a girl on a date or anywhere else I just go barefoot without even thinking.

 

Correction; inside places that may enforce no-barefoot *policy*. There are no laws against going barefoot in stores, restaurants, movie theaters etc; in spite of the many stores that carry signs stating 'shoes and shirt required by the Health Department', this is a myth. The Health Department does not require footwear in stores and other businesses, regardless of whether food is sold. Please see http://www.barefooters.org/health-dept for the letters from state HD's proving this.

Back to the topic, I don't date but if I did I would show up barefoot. I'm *always* barefoot so it would be totally unfair to pretend to be someone I am not.

 

Haha..good answer, Myranya

 

I guess it depends on where you go on the date or how you perceive this person to be.

 

For two girlfriends I met it was not an issue. We met while we were both barefoot on the streets of Greenwich Village (NYC)! This was a long time ago and it was not uncommon to see several barefooters around on the streets. I mean women who didn't just slip off their shoes. Today, none.

Since I prefer to go barefoot, I would show up sans footwear. I am honest and straightforward. I'd expect her to be, too.

 

Exactly! That's the point. There would be unfair to pretend being someone you're not. I think a barefooter girl should be proud of being barefoot and of her tough soles.

 

I think the most important thing on dating is to be true and honest, to be as-you-are. No one wants to buy a deception package. So i wonder why you think about going shoed to meet someone, as you even don't own any footwear. Just be yourself! Good luck!

 

Not only pixy's point. But if you own no shoes, it would seem that if you asked someone out you would have had to do it barefoot. So why would being barefoot at date time be a surprise.....or am i missing something. And if you show up barefoot either the girl will be game or tell you to go date yourself.....

 

I'm not sure how to phrase this so I just say it

you aren't just going to stop some random girl on the sidewalk and ask "will you go out on a date with me", this will most likely be someone that you kinda know and that kinda knows you, maybe in the same class. so she will already know you don't wear shoes, possibly not the fact you don't own any.

in short, she'll most likely know you go barefoot and it won't be a surprise you show up for a date barefoot. so I would say go for it and maybe have a backup flip flops just in case she want's to stop some place that won't let you in barefoot

 

I totally agree with this. If you enjoy going barefoot go that way. Show yourself honestly.
I don't think it would be disrespectful at all. For me personally would love it, if my date showed up barefoot!

 

What a nice remark concerning bare feet, we need more ladies like you!:hurray:

 

I see this a lot. I want to make something clear. This:

Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof; or abridging the freedom of speech, or of the press; or the right of the people peaceably to assemble, and to petition the Government for a redress of grievances.

particularly this:
no law...abridging the freedom of speech...