Man what am i doing wrong?

Okay I've been trying the neglect method since september 28th. It's about 4 months and today after i took a shower it looks like I've made 0 progress. My hair is wavy/straight kind. And now it looks like straight regular hair except in the back I have 3 dreads. One pretty fat one and 2 beside it. They are my glory but they are pretty pathetic to say the least.

It's just my hair starts to look good and then as soon as i wash it everything I thought I worked for just disappears. I need some tips. All I wash with is dr. bronners and sometimes i use baking soda. When I wash I tie my hair up and kinda scrub my scalp and keep the hair bunched up even. But is washing hair in the shower a bad idea? Should I just take a shower and then wash my hair seperately by just soaking it so i don't lose knots?

I just want to know if I'm doing something wrong or if I just need to take a chill pill and wait like another 4 months to see some progress

 

wait about 9 more months, its only been 5 months, so to have 3 dreads starting in the back is pretty good progress.. patients

 

cover your pillow with something 100% wool. the rough texture causes your hair to lock up and matte when you toss and turn at night. everyone who ive heard of doing this reports locks forming like 3x faster. patience is the secret to having great natural dreadlocks.

 

those will solve your problems.

 

seth i had long hair when i started. should i restart? or are you just messin with me

 

You're Not Doing Anything Wrong Mate, Everybodys Hair Is Different, I

Personally Count Myself Lucky Because My Hair Is Very Fine And Wavy,

And Was "Born To Dread"...

May I Ask What Your Hair Type, And Length Is..??



Cheers Glen.

 

He's messing with ya.

 

Are you using dr bronners or baking soda every time you shower? I started a month before you and its just takes alot of patience man. Also instead of covering a pillow in wool you can always just buy a wool tam or toque and wear it to sleep, it seems to help a lot

 

I shower like every 5-7 days. And when I shower I do wash my hair but usually just with dr. bronners. It's when I use baking soda it just straightens my hair out completely. All the sections that were starting disappear.

My hair is a little past shoulder length. It's straight on top and the back and bottom is loopy. I had the comb over emo cut before i started so my bangs are long and my hair was layered. So maybe that's making it difficult. That's why I decided to get dreads. I was tired of doing my hair everyday. I felt like a sissy man haha.

I just feel very far behind the pictures and videos I see of people around my time. But i'm gonna stick with it and keep trying new tips. thanks guys

 

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Cheers Glen.

 

I'm at about 20 days. I have over a dozen dreads showing up all over my head, with pretty strait, fine, white boy hair. One side of my head is being dissapointing, but it'll get there.

I attribute it to bronners. it has the "sticky" high friction effect on my hair that some complain of, but I don't mind, and it made my hair tangle really fast. Also I didn't change my pre-dirty-hippy-hair habits on showering, I take a shower 1-2x daily, each time lathering up my hair with bronners, 1-2 times.

 

Then stop it.

If you want to go neglect, just keep waiting. If you want to encourage knots, there are ways...

 

it could be because most backcomb dude, may be something to consider

 

if neglect isn't working, try a different method?

and if you decide to keep with the neglect, i would suggest ditching the baking soda if it makes your hair lose knots and wash with your dr. b's more often instead of just once a week. when just starting dreads keeping your hair as clean as possible is better

 

you are!

 

Neglect will work no matter what. It can just take long as fuck for some people...

Maybe TnR.... That's what I did and at 6 months mine are starting to look fuckin' sick. I fuckin' love headbanging with mine... Although my buddies call it "dreadbanging" now which is fuckin' howls.

 

this is normal. b/c you hair was only shoulder length your locks are going to go through several stages of tightening and loosening, and tightening again.

 

hang in there brother. anyone can have locks, and you will too. the patience, the waiting is part of the process. i've backcombed my hair three times and each time combed them out. finally (a year later) i'm going natural and it feels best, even if my hair is a mess. appreciate yourself for what you are, and for what your body does, which includes the dead cells of your hair.

 

5-7 days between showers probably means your hair gets greasy.

take a shower more often, wear a beanie, towel dry your hair, roll down the car window...

or just dont worry about it... it's called neglect for a reason

 

Yeah.

But if you choose to not worry about it, you should still take more showers.... unless you're like backpacking or something, that's disgusting....