So I am a 15 year old virgin sophomore guy in high school and back in October I started dating a Freshman girl who I have known for a couple of years and apparently liked me. I was not particularly attracted to her but my friend thought it would be funny to tell her I REALLY liked her. So she started to cling to me a bit and we fooled around, (nothing serious just making out), and so I thought what the heck and we started dating. While we were dating I learned a lot about her. It turns out that she was something of a slut and while she didn't cheat on me she had on many other guys. She was also turned out to be one of those girls who swears that "I love you so much." while we ad only been going out for a week. She ended it after a month and a half or so and we continued to be friends. I soon learned even more about her like the fact that she cut herself. I had no idea and I was shocked to find out because she as definitely not someone who passed off as an Emo. Today I got a text message from her saying that she was cutting herself again because she "was not with me". It has been 2 months since we dated and all of a sudden she "still loves me". This is ridiculous, she clearly has problems and I don't want anything to do with it. It's funny, before we dated I would have done anything to have sex and now I have a girl throwing herself at me and I don't want anything to do with it. So Hip Forums, what do I do. I don't want to get involved but I feel like a jerk because I don't know how to reply to her. Should I just have sex with her and hope that she soon forgets about me or should I just ignore her.
dude..emo and cutting are different things....i would stay away from her and tell her you feel compelled to tell someone that will help her...like her rents
You are dealing with a very confused and troubled person. No, don't have sex with her. Her advances and promiscuity are because of her need for attention and emotional problems. Humoring any advance will just make it worse for you, and, in the end, cause her more pain. Iit sounds like you know this isn't a good situation to be involved in and that's why you are hesitatant. Trust that instinct. In no way to belittle you, but, you are both very young. This isn't something you should have to deal with. If she is truly self-harming, you need to let someone know. Do you know her parents or will yours be supportive? If you go to the same school, a guidance will talk to you confidentially. Cutting is beyond the scope of what most adults are prepared to handle on theiir own.
She just wants attention, high school can be cruel for most. You dont have to do anything sexual with her, just hang out on occasions, she's probably just doing the sexual stuff cos thats what she thinks it will take to keep you in her life. Make it like she's your little sister, get your warm and fuzzies by being someones saviour. Seperate your time with her and your other friends if she starts affecting your game with the other girls. Cutting herself? Therapists, parents....in her mind just a bunch of old people that dont get her, telling her what to do, she aint going to listen. She just wanst someone to pay attention to her
I was in VERY similar situation when I was your age. There was a girl who really liked me, who I wasn't crazy about, but I started dating her anyway. She confessed to me that she cut herself, and that she was very unhappy, and in hindsight she really did just want someone to love her. That was supposed to be me, but being fourteen years old I was a fucking idiot and just acted like an asshole and broke up with her. I don't think I was wrong to break up with her, but the way I did it was horrible and I have no idea how much pain it caused her, though she told me she was miserable. All she wanted was a friend, but I was an idiot. We still talk sometimes, and I've apologized for the way I acted, but I still can't take it back. I think the advice you've been given so far is very good. Don't have sex with her, just be her friend. Let her know that you care about her, not by doing shit with her, but by being there for her. Like Vanilla said, treat her like a little sister. There's definitely no way to overstate how great helping someone like that will make you feel, and of course, how great it will make her feel.
