I get so angry with my father and brother - they are both alcoholics and fucking angry drunks at that. For years I have had to put up with it and when they get like this, they do not see sense, like every other drunk I guess. And when they sober up, its either never mentioned, or if they were that awful the night before they will be extra nice to make it up. If I had my way, I really would throw them out on the streets. It's been a life time of broken promises and aggression. Anyone else have to put up with this? Been threatened or hit, things thrown at you, broken doors?? I need tips on staying sane some times!
Put a video camera on them. Obviously not up in their face, or it will probably get thrown to the ground and stomped on, but somewhere they won't see it. Then put it on a tape or a disc and back up the video on the computer or on another tape. Show it to them when they're sober so they know how horrible they are. If they destroy it, you always have the backup. I'm not suggesting blackmail, just remind them that just because they destroy the tape doesn't mean it didn't happen and it didn't affect you. No one has a right to forgiveness. If they think they're entitled to it, they're dumb as posts. I'd want to be cracking skulls in this situation. I live with a pair of "adults" that act crazy-stupid-asshole enough without alcohol, so I can't imagine what they would be with a chemical helper... I sympathize with you, though. My fiance's mom is as alkie. She gets to swearing and going around in circular logic- just stupid shit and you can't reason with her. She's a mean drunk, but not physical. It's all psychological, because she gets in these head-loops... Fuck drunks. Put them all in a house together and let them burn it down. They pissed in their bed, they can sleep in it.
Good idea. But I bet you it would work for a week or so, then they'd go back to it. I hate them so much sometimes. So many bad memories from about the age of 6. Then they put me in a bad mood and once again, it's not them who suffer with it! Oh well.
Yes, I grew up in a similar situation. I never talked about it with anyone at the time and kept everything inside. I later became what I hated and did the Dr. Jekell and Mr. Hyde thing like you are explaining. When I drank I turned into a different person. I sought help thou and now dont drink. I can definitely relate with the confusion and anger your going throu. Theres no good explanation for it but I think of it as that we are all sick in our own way. I know that my mother did the best she could with what she had. She grow up the same way. If you are looking for support I heard Al-Anon is a good place.
Not all drunks are angry drunks ...Im a happy drunk Ive no time for drunk obnoxious cunts though, some people are literally retarded when they drink...but they still continue to drink..idiots.
No, I have never spoken about it - this is the closest I have come! I guess it feels like people shouldn't know; shame perhaps? Not sure whether I'm looking for support. When they piss me off this much, I get angry and do my own stupid things to get over it.
Yeah, but my two are. I have had bad experiences with them. Plates thrown at the wall, my door broken door, threats to hit me if I weren't a woman. Happy drunks, I'd welcome any day.
Dont feel ashamed by it, they are the ones who should feel shame, you should just be happy in the knowledge that you arent like that. Theres no talking to some people though, the meanest people Ive ever met have alcoholics, deeply bitter people..
Am I the only one who finds the OP's name a bit ironic? Don't let them fuck with you like that, stand up. But don't assume all drunks are bad drunks, some of us just have bad livers.
Im sorry you have to deal with that its a horrible situation to be in, some nights used to get like that with my dad but that was usually me riling him up, hes an alcy but never a violent one, although we have had our fights and arguements but its never lasted. Id move if I were you, home shouldnt be a place to feel threatened in.
it is the next morning... best bet is to move out, and if you aren't old enough, avoid them when they're drunk until you are old enough.
I'm glad! I have just moved home because I will be travelling soon. When I get back I will be moving out asap!
Good morning, my experience is, that you can't change anything, except avoiding this place. Alcoholics have no reasoning, even if they are sober for a moment. The only way out for them is to avoid alcohol. But that is not an easy way, even if they reassured again and again that they will not drink anymore. Good luck to you. Regards Gyro
yeah man just go for a stroll, i jump in my car and hit the highy way, sleep out the bush and come home the next day, im sure there are a lot of ppl out there woho feel the same way, stay true and be happy peace
my dad was the same way.he would become so angry he'd start throwing things around. when mom tried to stop him he'd hit her over and over again.if i was in his way he'd push me aside or if i locked myself in my room he'd kick the door out or try coming in through the window.he was an abuser and i hate him soooo much. i haven't spoken to him in 7 years bcuz of it he txts me saying he changed and wants to make things up to me but i'm done he's already said that sooo many times in the past but it was always lies i can never trust him again maybe if i get married someday i'll think bout inviting him but other then that i want nothing to do wit him i really hope you find a better way of resolving the situation then i did
yeah sounds like you need to get out of there. I would have packed up and left as soon as i could if i were you. i hate being around drunks when im sober... i feel bad for them but it also kind of disgusts me
