Discuss, Ill have something directly related to me to add tomorrow but before she tells me what it is she has to say Id like to know all your opinions on this touchy/maybe even naive topic. Do you think it is a real thing? Do you think that you can know a persons character immediately from just a few brief encounters? Or do you think that it is for the romantics and the naive?
I'm a cynic and dont believe in love, but it is possible for a few lucky people. I know one couple who have been together since they met at 16 and 50 years later Theyre still together and happily married. they are one of the lucky few. I dont believe its possible for someone to figure a person out completely in a short time. People are so complex.
I think "Love" at first sight is mostly based on pheromones, crap like Axe body spray, hairstyle and general persona or first impression of "you" that the other person develops upon meeting you. I wont discount the possibility that it could end up as a perfect match when you really get to know each other but I wouldn't hold my breath hoping if I were you as all first impressions are highly speculative. Still, nothing wrong with running with the instinct and hoping for the best right? Nothing ventured nothing gained.
I believe it only happens once in your life.after that is feeling it when you connect by communicating with the person It rarely happens but it did happen to me, but 3 years ago. Never had I got that feeling again, which is okay, because if you get it all the time, you'll forget how special it is.
"love at first sight" in the romantic sense ... no picking up on character traits within the first few meetings ... definitely i think you can have immediate chemistry with someone, i have experienced that and it is powerful, amazing, takes your breath away.. but is it love? not in my opinion
i think whenever you communicate with people you sense who they are/what they're experiencing and if you like that, then ya it could happen. and i believe love is not a two-way road like some people would say. like the beatles said: "yes I'm certain that it happens all the time"
It is as real as you make it ... as long as you're alert of overload expectations, or the need to be 'saved'. Maybe it's not to know another's character immidiately, but to be willing to fully open to them, and by such get into touch with your own unknown aspects of self (and help them to get into touch with theirs) - even come to a greater awareness of where your spirit seeks to walk - as it may be this aspect of yours who felt drawn, and called to. And so, yes, you may - in an instant - intuit the potential of growth and joy for all involved that rises from a heart connection. Just a thought.
Yeah this is more relevant to te situation, love is too romantic/dreamy idea for me. Basically, I met two girls (call them J and M [M is the girl in question]) with a friend of mine two weeks ago, both from Hungary but one was just over for a two week holiday. Spent 5 full nights (throughout the two weeks) talking to both of them, sometimes together, sometimes seperately. It was always in the pub or at a friends apartment but it was always just the 3 or 2 of us talking, not a group of people. Definitely instantly struck a bond with M, she is a very shy and gentle person, nothing fake about her. That is an instantly recognizable trait of hers. I could have taken things further than talking but it was nice just to be with her. Been in plenty of relationships but never felt as secure around someone before. There was plenty of small signs and reactions from her that she felt the same but the last weekend she was here she ended up with an Italian guy they know. I pretty much left her alone because we couldnt really talk with him there obviously but there were always looks exchanged. We shared a brief goodbye on Sunday night and got each others numbers. Monday she was going back to Hungary and she phoned me Monday evening half crying saying she missed me and she shouldnt have been with the Italian guy and that she didnt spend enough time here. She also said she missed me more than any of the people that she met and hasnt stopped thinking about me, even her friend who she was visiting. We were talking for a long time and now shes offered me a place to stay, and a job on their farm in Hungary because they employ people during the summer. Im travelling through Europe for a few months anyway come Summer but I was planning on starting on this side and working my way East, this would mean paying extra to fly straight to Hungary and go West but it would be a secure start with a beautiful woman, a paying job and a roof over my head. So its a gamble as I would basically be trusting more or less a stranger. But then my thinking is no one gains anything from thoughts, actions make us who we are and what we accomplish so just go for it? She says she has something important to tell me but wanted to do it from her home where she would be more relaxed (she stayed in Budapest last night but shes from Pécs) so Ill have to see what that is. The Summer is also quite a while away I realise but once I have a solid idea in my head not much changes me going through with it and spontaneity is the spice of life after all Fuck me thats a bit of an essay there The title is a bit misleading as "love" is too clichéd for my mindset. Definitely a strong mutual bond though
That first paragraph doesnt apply to me at all really, not exactly Brad Pitt here like its hard aswell to describe social settings and converstaions of first meeting someone which plays a huge part. Its more than just physical and mental attraction though..its really hard for me to describe or explain but its definitely more than what Ive felt for anyone else...then again Im young and women play a prominent role in most young mens lives ...something different about this one though..
Thats why contact is tied to that Again though, love is too clichéd a word, I dont like describing it like that.
My love for that certain single women doesn't go on in a flash, typically it tends to gradually climb in intensity, as in I start to fall.
Yup thats exactly whats happening, I didnt realise Id miss her as much as I do, I wish Id gotten to know each other better while I had the chance, were having a very...personal convo at the moment...a lot of things are coming out.
