Why would my boyfriend watch porn but not use it to get off?

My boyfriend watches porn after I go to bed or when I leave the house but rarely masturbates to it. He just watches it. I'm just wondering what kind of need this meets. I can understand watching porn to help you get off -- and I don't have a problem with him jerking off to it when he's not in the mood for sex, but this I just don't understand and he can't seem to explain it to me. Anyone have any insights? It makes me a little sad sometimes.

 

Entertainment

 

Boobies!!!!!!!

 

I guess girls and guys just have different reasons for watching porn. I don't do it just to look at dicks so its weird for me to imagine.

 

The better question is why do you have such a problem with it?

 

Because I don't understand why he does it and he won't explain. It would be one thing if he shared it with me but he tries to keep it a big secret.

 

& Scientific Research...

 

Now that I can understand, if only he put any of that research to good use. He's all into watching these guys do these nasty things to these girls but he won't do any of it to me. If he would let me watch with him or something I think this could be helpful. Even telling me what kind of porn he likes to watch.

 

have you ever seen the family guy when his lois finds peters porn. and says "dont you wanna do this to me?" she made a video and slipped it in the vcr and peter watched it accidentally .. you could do that..

 

Yeah, I guess I could, but I really don't mind that he looks at these other girls. I just wish he would open up to a little more in bed. I try to initiate some variety in our sex life but more often than not he just wants to go straight in for the kill (intercourse)-- and its almost always in the same position. I think I just have to be a little more proactive during sex to get him to open up. And try to get him to talk to me about why he does this. And do all of this tactfully...
I think part of it is that he is just embarrassed when it comes up.

 

Why do you feel you have to "understand" it? Is the fact that he enjoys watching it not enough for you?

You say that, but it doesn't seem that way.

So why not talk to him about doing new stuff in bed? Not everyone can read minds. If you don't talk to him about it, how is he supposed to know...

 

First off Since you are either asleep or out of the house he could be beating that thing like it owes him money for all you know.
Second he might be storing it in the spank bank for future use.

 

its more danger from drug. be carefull.

 

Does he know you want more variety in bed?
Does he know you would like him to take it slower?

 

Yeah, I mean it's fair game to watch it while your around, but I am sure he is letting it know who daddy is when you aren't around.

What an unsightly thought, walking through the door,

'Hunny, I'm home'

'Don't mind be babe, just whacking the monkey here, will be with you in a second. Want me to make you a cup of tea in a mo?

'Urr, no'

 

i do that too but im not in a relationship. it's just somethin he likes to do like an exciting movie genre.

 

Your boyfriend is a freak. There's absolutely no reason to watch porn if you aren't going to get off, or at least working on getting into the mood.

 

I watch it all the time without wanting to get off or get in the mood. But I already know I'm a freak

 

Lol pretty simple its something to watch. Don't any girls ever just watch porn because it is interesting?

 

"Dude, I'm 'batein' in here."
-Idiocracy