Am I the only asexual here? I somehow doubt that. But I do have a question... well, I guess it's more of a curious comment really. But basically, I used to be quite the sexual person. I loved sex. I loved to have sex and I wanted to have sex with every gorgeous male I came into contact with. I've only had one bad (violent) sexual experience and it didn't seem to effect my opinion of sex, or my want/need to have sex. However, since a little over a year ago I haven't been interested in sex at all. I haven't had sex. And I've come to call myself an asexual because of it. I'm not depressed. I'm still horny and I masturbate often but I'm not interested in being sexual with anyone other than myself. I suppose technically that means I'm not asexual. Anyway, my question is, what could have brought this on? Could it be boredom? I don't find myself attracted to anyone I see anymore and it's not that I dislike people, because I don't. Will this continue or will I emergy from my "asexual-phase" just as horny as ever and wanting to be sexual with men again? This probably sounds absolutely ridiculous but I think it's so strange that a person who loves sex so much like I used to could magically turn into a person who is not remotely interested in sex.
It sounds to me like it is just as you describe it; a phase. Seems like just another stage in your life. Maybe a hormonal change? I don't know, I'm no doctor, you might want to ask you gyno if you have one.
if it's a phase, i would think the sex wouldnt be as it used to for sure. and question: does sex not interest you more for reasons that you don't care or for a more unknown reason?
I'm not really sure. I feel like it's mostly that I've become totally uninterested in it and don't find myself attracted to anyone. Although, that isn't entirely true. I am incredibly attracted to one person, a person I cannot have for so many reasons, and I'm wondering if that could have something to do with it, psychologically...
oh interesting. I've been becoming more and more asexual lately and i think it is because i just don't give a damn about relationships or sex, but also what you said probably plays a factor too about liking someone but can't have them. Since middle school i've always liked a, or a few guys but since they're all straight and i'm gay, i gave up long ago. well at least thought i gave up cuz i thought it woulda helped me in the end just to not care cuz im kinda hopeless. But now that I'm 19 and more able to date, i have many opportunities to be with someone but all my years of giving up and telling myself to give up actually made me lose interest entirely. i think i'll post this as my own thread cuz i need help but i was curious to know if you think it's because you dont care, or because of that kind of giving up thing which is basically trauma i guess, or just an unknown reason (which i assume is hormones)
I don't know if you could really say the reasons/motives for my having been "asexual" (per say) for a while applies to you as well. It could very well be a semi temporary thing, who knows...we're always changing are we not? If not, perhaps we should be.... The classic "want what you cannot have" syndrome.
I consider myself asexual becasue i never had any sexual atraction to either gender(even after i hit puberty), but i did try it and i thought it was really akward, but masterbating is always fun and a person who likes to do it all the time is possibly autosexual and it is enjoyed by other asexuals as well but i see it as a stress reliver and i like the health benifits it offers. Asexuality is similar to being gay, you just feel that way and nothing can change it unless a person changes it themselves(if they do it can be very stressful I hear), celibacy still exisits and I guess it can be called an asexual phase but celibacy is different from asexuality becasue you may not have sex for a while but still have the sexual atraction to another person. If you want more information you can go to www.asexuality.org
I'm starting to think I might be asexual myself. I haven't had any sexual contact with another person in 7 years, I can't remember the last time I thought or felt that way about anyone
I don't see how asexuality-which means without sex, without sexuality- can involve feelings of sexual arousal (being horny) and masturbating. No criticism at all-your lifestyle and decisions are yours, and I respect that. But I don't think you're asexual. My 2c....your decisions don't impact on anyone else, so I wouldn't be concerned. At least you never have to argue over the wet spot!
