heart break help please ;[

i dated a beatiful woman for almost 4 years and wev have had problems off and on most of those years. Stupid little thing ya dig? wel i jus found out she had sex with a kid named shane and may b pregnent. i never imagined she could do that to me, i mean she broke my heart b4 but this time? she tore it out. please i need advice on how 2 handel this...its been 2 weeks and the pain is still imence.

 

anyone? advice?

 

Get over her.

 

She didn't do it to you. It is doubtful that her actions will make you pregnant.

 

Exactly. This may sound harsh...but being free from someone that has broken your heart not once, but now twice may be the most liberatingly painful gift you could receive.

Just go and don't look back.

Best of luck.

 

LOL something tells me that even though his grammar said one thing he meant another. Something also tells me you knew this, a-hole.

 

I have no idea what your saying here man haha.

 

I appriciate the insight...i guess it is just harder around now because of valintines day and i see everyone in a happy relationship. Thanks again. Peace

 

She's smart and insightful.

Nothing can affect your state of mind without your permission. The woman you dated obviously doesn't care how her actions affect your state of mind so why empower her to screw with you?

Valentine's Day is just an excuse for card and candy companies to fatten their bottom lines. As Elle said, be happy you're free.

 

wow...you all make it seem so clear. your absolutly right i am in control of what affects my state of mind. You know i do feel more free...she didnt aproove of my usage of mind expanding drugs even though i use them(as my name states) for knowlage and enlightenment. now shes of no concern. i do feel like i can be me again. Thank you

 

Your definitely much better off without her, especially if she gives you a hard time with you recreational activities. Put her behind you and know that your going to be better off, and her and the guy she cheated with are not going to be having a great time if shes knocked up. And she will probably end up cheating on him as well. Sounds like you dodged a bullet with her, just be glad your not the one who got her pregnant and move on with your life.

 

haha i hear ya man. i feel better about it all...i DEFINATLY shoulda came to this site sooner...this is my kinda place...you guys are my kinda people.
peace and love for everyone!

 

It's funny you mention the thing about psychedelics man. I dated a girl for 5 years and we never saw eye to eye on that sort of thing. Eventually we broke up and I was extremely heart-broken for a long time. When you date someone for that long, 4-5 years, it is hard to imagine yourself not being with them...

But I assure you that time heals wounds and eventually you will realize that when 2 people are fundamentally different it will now work. Plus, this girl obviously cheated on you. Trust me, you will be better off without her in the long run. Be yourself. I have found that you have to love yourself and be completely free. If a girl wants to come along for the ride, then she's a keeper...

 

wow...you really put it into perspective. It is hard being without her cuz shes been there for so long. thank you man i apriciate the help

 

Boy, that was quick. :biggrin:

 

i mean now i see what i have to do...day to day is still hard but you guys all helped

 

My man!