in love with my best friend

i'm in highschool. i'm already fully out and have relatinbships with guy...but theres one guy i've been stuck on for like two years now. he is straight and he knows i'm gay and i think he has a hunch how i feel. he is moving in march to australia and before then i would give anything to like get with him, or at least something, i just dont want to live with thinking how it shoulda been coulda been, but at the same time i dont want to try something get rebuffed and never see him again. oh what shall i do?

 

tell him how u feel dude. If he's moving, what's the worst that could happen? Maybe he'll let you know on some stuff he's feeling too, you never know. You'll never know if you don't try, naww meaan?

 

Sketchy business confessing your love to a best friend, regardless of sexuality.

I would sit on it for a while, consider whether it is worth possibly jeopardizing your relationship. I mean, he will move, and you will find someone new eventually.

What difference would it make if you had reciprocate? You guys aren't able to stay together it seems, shitty as it sounds.

 

ehh...he's straight...?

 

Think on it. You don't want to do anything that you'll regret, and losing a friend sucks, take it from me. I just don't want you to get your heart broken IF he dousn't feel the same way. But, on the other hand, if he's really your friend, he won't let your feelings get in the way of your relationship.

 

you might as well tell him since hes moving, but i wouldn't get my hopes up at all for anything to happen.

 

I had a crush on a straight friend for a couple of years once. He thought I was just attracted to him, but it was really a bit more than that... I was rejected, but not too harshly, we remain good friends. He even says he wishes he was gay so that it could make me happy as well, so that made me feel pretty damn special. I hope things work out with your friend, and I'd reccomend telling him anyways.

 

It really does not matter so much what you do as it matters how you do it.

I have always kept my private life to myself and never made it a major topic. All of my friends knew that I was gay but they also knew that I was not advertising it.

I had two very hot str8 friends, and frankly, I wanted to get some fun on the side with them. Being a total top, this probably made it even more difficult for them. Yet, we were very close friends, and we trusted each other totally. They knew that I was going to be absolutely discrete about our affair.

In addition to that, we made it sound and look as if they were repaying me a small favor. This surely sounded totally lame, but it gave them an excuse to go with it without doubting their sexual orientations. Both dudes turned out to be total troopers, if you are catching my drift.

On the downside, once we crossed that line, it was impossible to return to being friends only anymore. One of them admitted that our little affair opened a totally new horizont in his life. He still chose to stick with his GF, get married, have kids and all, but felt that variety was a spice of life. He would frequently ask for small favors, (no money has ever been involved) and would suggest that he was more than willing to "do something in return". I never turned down his offers. We both enjoyed our ongoing affair for two years. After that I moved, we met again and he said, he wanted to end up our "side arrangement". He also said that he found another friend in the meantime, and was having some fun on the side with him. I had no hard feelings about this. The distance made it really impossible for us to carry on as usual.

The other dude is still my friend. We still get to mess around now and then, though our friendship and real sense of closeness suffered.

I had been aware of all the risks involved and still wanted to take them. I have had no regrets.

KD

 

Just get drunk with him and fool around. Worst case he's leaving anyway?

 

I've been the straight friend. At least I thought I was. Now I'm here, lol. Actually, now I'm bi in a large part because my best guy friend in high school had a crush on me, much as you like your friend. He professed his love for me, and although I'd never thought about it before, either because I wanted him to be happy, or because it just made sense, I started actually liking him back! So maybe if you tell him, it'll show him what he's missing kind of thing and you can seriously enjoy what little time you have together! I know that now, as both me and my high school best friend are both moving, I wish that he'd said something a lot sooner! Go for it man, really! Do it! And good luck!