so a close friend of mine was raped at a party this weekend, she drank ALOT and passed out, remembers being drag by her legs to the foot of the bed. woke up the next morning with a condom in her back pocket and feeling as if she had had sex. i dont know what to do, she doesn't even know i know. she told the other two girls of our group who told me and the other two guys of our group. i dont think the police will be an option because the victim is the kind of girl that would rather not talk about it and forget it ever happened. what should i do?
thats scary stuff but she could just get the condom tested if theres sperm in there from the person who did it and get them busted
if you KNOW it happened.. like have some sort of proof that it happened.. then you are obligated to report it to the authorities
it happened thursday, so most likely she doesnt have the condom, i had thought about it. i have no proof that it happened.
you have to do something, unless you want it to happened to someone ells, cause that's all that is going to happened
1-She needs to talk to a women's crisis center. Look in the blue pages in your phone book or search the internet for you area. Your friend was raped. She feels guilty-its not her fault and she needs help. She needs to talk to someone who knows hot to help her. 2-She needs to tell her parents. Getting drunk was stupid. But she should be able to get drunk and pass out at a party and not get raped. She may not do this. But she should do #1. 3-She should call the police. She won't until she gets help and then it will be too late. But that's not as important and #1 She needs help. Talk to her. State these as fact. Tell her #1 she has to do. Get the information. Go over. Make sure she calls. She should do the other 2-but those are up to her-let her know.
If someone's dragging you by your feet into a bedroom then that's super fucked. He's just going to do it again to some other innocent girl. I would at least tell her you know and show some support. She's probably blaming herself right now convincing herself that its her fault because she drank too much. Does she have any idea who did it? I also agree with YouFreeMe.She needs to get checked out and make sure everything's alright.
wellll what she should have done was not taken a shower, not changed clothes, not done anything the morning of and went STRAIGHT to the hospital. considering she didn't do that, and no one saw it (i'm assuming), you have absolutely no chance of winning any sort of legal battle. all she can really do now is get emotional support/make sure she didn't catch anything
Rape is terrible and I detest it entirely, but if she had two brain cells to rub together she should have known better than to drink herself completely blotto at some party. For all we know, she was so drunk she was all for it and just so trashed the guy had to drag her around a bit. Again, I'm not saying 'she deserved' it or anything like that, and it's a terrible thing to have happen to anyone - just that maybe we haven't the full picture. And at least talk her into finding a free clinic somewhere to get a battery of basic tests for the nastier STDs.
It is crucial for victims to make the first step and come forward with accusations. The legal battle should deter sex offenders from continuing.
what legal battle? what proof does she have (at this point)? all a legal battle will do now is waste time and money, and start up a lot of uneccesary heart ache. since there's absolutely no proof whatsoever, if she did try to take it to court (assuming she'd find a lawyer, which is doubtful), she would have to testify and god KNOWS the guy's lawyer would just absolutely rip her to shreds and make her look like a downright slut. no, please don't push her in the direction of the courts
I really have no idea what happened but if it is true I wont feel bad for a rapist getting the finger pointed at him. This topic is a slippery slope.
You say she's the type of girl that can't talk about these type of things and would rather forget about it but that is just arecipe for disaster. She NEEEDS to talk about it and cope and work through it, rape is a tremendous emotional burden and repressing it and what happened will be extremely damaging in the long run. She need to go to a women's center/ crisis center just to receive suppose and atleast be given professional direction as for what to do next
