certain things about people that we see as "hot" are biological things we look for in a mate that indicate health. EG. shiney hair, few blemishes, active (thin), clear eyes, etc.
I agree. I fuck ugly bitches, hot bitches. Believe me, it's all the same. Edit: I think guys care because they are "hand-holders." If you're a "motherfucker", you don't care.
Why is it cool to appreciate beauty? Beauty makes people feel good, for one. And two. The creatures known as Homo Sapiens have this evolutionary mechanism known as a sex drive, much like various other animals. It is there to ensure the survival of the species. And believe it or not, humans aren't the only ones who are inclined to be more interested in attractive mates. But they are the only ones inclined to bitch about it. And check the latest installment to my posts. v Svitlo Satire Counter: 2 threads devoted to me so far
seriously, i didn't realize that was considered a cool thing. but i suppose it is more interesting than discussing cars, or the personal lives of professional basketball players.
me too. i have no problem with the idea of sex, aside from over population. what does bug me is when it crowds out everything else. as rather often happens here. that drugs and money. when there are so many more creative and gratifying thins we could be talking about and doing. like not arguing about politics, but getting past political, economic, and ideological prejudice.
I remember having an insight once, two women talking...They were talking about the most mundane topics on Earth, like, "OMGsh, I went there, and then I spoke to her, that spoke to him, that went somewhere else, who bought this, who bought that, and then the car broke, and then, omgsh, I was watching this, and my boyfriend omgsh, and then somebody else who's a jerk said something to someone else who's awesome, that made that person feel such and such a way, that made somebody else mad, happy, angry, or sad." And I was just observing...suddenly, it hit me: "OMGsh, these women are totally BONDING over this." ----------------------- I can't possibly bond over small-talk. Horseplay and scatological humor, yes. But, smalltalk---> C'est pas posible.
i was an outsider impressed with people's ability to small-talk. i still don't get it. i start getting twitchy and wanna leave. i tried mommy-groups, looking for some kind of community and realized they were the most irritating people on the earth and i really don't give a shit about their kids or their schools.
I've never really understood the concept of small talk. There are so many important things in the world that need to be worked on, why would anyone waste huge amounts of time talking about pointless crap. Unfortunately, small talk seems to be the way most people (regardless of gender) actually bond. There are people who have had what they call life long friendships with people that they have never done more then swap 'small talk' with. I don't get it, and hope I never do.
forum posting has helped a little with my small talk skills. but mainly because i don't have to wait around and listen, i can go do something else for a little.
I seem to observe women placing way more emphasis on small-talk than men, but then again, I'm a misogynist gay so...