Question..

Discussion in 'The Whiners' started by artisteque, Feb 23, 2010.

  1. artisteque

    artisteque Member

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    How do I stop talking to someone who has been in my life for 5 years? How do I move on? I'm in love with this person but this person hurts me every single day, not purposely, but it still happens. Everyone says "keep busy" but it's hard to keep yourself busy 24/7.
     
  2. 90 paces west

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    Um, well. I just kept letting myself get abused emotionally, and verbally. Until one day I realized I had much more potential... And would be much better with out the miserable fuck in my life... And blocked his number. And websites.
    Remember, he's probably more dependent on your dependence, then your are on him.

    Wash your hands clean... Ask yourself what your getting from it... And realize that you shouldn't settle... Because that's obviously what your doing.
     
  3. DazedGypsy

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    just stop, that's how:)
     
  4. artisteque

    artisteque Member

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    It's not that easy.
     
  5. thedope

    thedope glad attention Lifetime Supporter

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    How easy is it being torn up?
     
  6. 90 paces west

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    I don't wanna sound like a bitch. But the internet is probably the worst place to try and get what you wanna hear...

    Most of us are here for small chit chat. Our options shouldn't be as greatly appreciated as the ones who are close to you should be. We are complete strangers... Your family and friends probably know the situation best.
    :)
     
  7. artisteque

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    It's not about getting what I want to hear. It's about wanting to hear real opinions. I'm assuming other people have been in a similar situation. My situation is complicated. I've known and have been friends with this person for years and he means more to me than most people in my life do. I've been talking to him every day for almost a year so it's not as easy as "just doing it"
     
  8. FritzDaKatx2

    FritzDaKatx2 Vinegar Taster

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    The one and only way is to get like the old Nike slogan and just do it. Everything else will just leave you room to make excuses for double backing and back peddling on the issue.

    **edit**

    I see you're convinced to thinking that "just doing it" is somehow uniquely impossible in your situation. Well keep track of your future together cuz' it sounds like love and you'll want to save stories to tell the grandkids... ;)
     
  9. artisteque

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    I don't consider myself to be making excuses. I do love this person very much. I've tried leaving before, lasted a few days, and always ended up coming back. I'm not usually such a weak person. I just don't get it.
     
  10. Lostthoughts

    Lostthoughts Thostloughts

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    a) be honest with him, and tell him you need him gone
    b) kill him

    your choice
     
  11. artisteque

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    haha, well, I have been honest with him thus far in regards to how I feel he is treating me and earlier I told him that he can either treat me the way he once did or I'll be leaving.
     
  12. FritzDaKatx2

    FritzDaKatx2 Vinegar Taster

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    Well it's simple then, he doesn't have any more balls than you do in this situation. You make him miserable, or he's found a new piece of ass on the side that he likes more and he's treating you like dirt so you leave him and free him of wearing the asshole badge (At least from his own warped perspective.)

    Tell the Grandkids I said their Grandparents were hopelessly co-dependant as youngin's. ;)
     
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