Can a relationship survive without sex?

I'm just asking because my GF and I have been together for over 8 years but as time has gone on we have been having less and less sex to a point where we now only have sex once a month. Aside from that our relationship is still fairly strong but im not sure if the sex issue is where we can trip up.

We've tried talking about it but we never get past square one. So can we carry on like this or will it cause problems in the future?

Any advice appreciated.

Thanks.

 

it depends on how much sex means to you. I know if my bf (of 6years)stopped haveing sex with me, i would have a problem with it, I like sex and I like that raw sexual attraction I would think he doesn't find me attractive or the fact that he wouldn;t want to have sex with me would make me feel sad and upset, maybe unloved in that section. That type of chemisty is great, I would feel like I had a great roomate not a lover. but that is me. every relationship is different. If the both of you are fine with no sex then , thats great, but if it is a need from one of you , then its bad because both people whould feel fufilled. Could it just be a slow period??, i know sometimes my partner and I will have a slow period in sex.. when things change or we are stressed... i donno. Go with what feels right to you. Be honest and open about the situation, every relationship is different, there are no standards just your own
thats my 2cents
peace.love.light

 

It depends.

 

It is more likely to survive if you never have sex to begin with, I reckon. Anything is possible.

 

I have friends who are married to each other and only have sex about once every couple of years if they're feeling it. But, they have a great relationship otherwise. Talking, sleeping, cuddling, and everything else together. But no sex.

For me though, it would have to be one helluva relationship.

 

Given the fact that the OP names himself, sexymale, and posts a thread like this within 3 posts of participation in a public forum...I would say, yes. It's a problem.

Maybe you guys are the typical situation where you should just have been fucking for a couple months and let go, and now yous turned into a full-blown relationship because...well, everybody you have sex with must become your girlfriend, right?

 

very blunt, but good point lol

 

I agree with the above 100%

If you like sex and it's important to you but not the other person you can end up feeling unattractive and rejected.

 

It all depends on the people in that relationship.

There are some people in asexual relationships that would only ever have sex to procreate that are very happy with each other.

There are people like the late Christopher Reeves' who get paralyzed and have spouses that stand by them no matter what.

And there are people who end up making arrangements for a semi-open relationship due to sexual problems.

And there are couples that just won't ever be able to find a common solution - and therefore must separate.


Why exactly do you never get past square one when talking?

Cause you know, everyone fucks before it turns into a full-blown relationship.

 

Sex is a very important part of a relationship for most people, but is not the MOST important thing.
If you're concerned because of the fact that everyone talks about sex as a daily thing, then don't. I'm sure a very big percentage of long lasting relationships and marriages have sex maybe once a week... sometimes once every two weeks.
This happens because you spend a lot of time together doing other stuff, and sex is not a priority.

If the subject bothers you because you NEED more sex in your life, then talk about it quickly.. that could ruin your relationship. But if you really don't feel this is an ISSUE persé.. then just get your mind off of it and find a better thing to worry about.

 

8 years and you cant get past square one? whats up with that

 

You never defined, "square one!" Maybe that's the hangup. Define it for yourself, if not for us. Meanwhile, I hope you are masturbating every night or so - 8 years without regular orgasm will have your prostate screaming, or cancer developing, or enlarging to prevent pissing, or........

 

I was married for 8 years with no sex at all. We did eventually get a divorce but it wasn't because of the lack of sex. I absolutely think a relationship can exist without sex, but if you were having sex a lot you are now only having sex once a month I would probably be looking at other areas of your relationship. Stress in other areas perhaps?

 

It also depends on your age. Frequent sex becomes less important as you get older, and other factors become more important, like trust and compatibility of personalities.

Based on your screen name, this situation may be making you feel insecure, which will tempt you to cheat in order to prove yourself and feel better. This is not going to lead to anything good.

 

If you feel the need to ask opinions in forums it's obviously a worry if not a real concern. You need to try to talk to your partner even if it is just to clarify the fact that you're both happy with the sex life ( or lack of) that you have. I firmly agree that there is a lot more to a partnership than sex but you both have to be on the same page.

 

It most definitely can last without sex!
I believe the only thing a relationship needs
to last is FRIENDSHIP.

 

lets not kid ourselves here, sex IS a big deal but by no means is it needed.

 

Agree with previous posts that it depends. It seems that it is more important to you than it is to her which might be a problem. You have to establish how important it is for you first of all. I'm a lady and have the same problem as you...

However, it would be helpful to know why you GF doesn't talk about it. Maybe it could be resolved. Maybe not but you got to really make it clear to her how important it is, and ask her where she stands, without judging.

I'm separated because of it but I don't think that the same thing needs to happen. You both need to have a serious chat about it though.
Hope this helps!

 

Answer, no. You would not be here but for sex.