ADVICE PLEASE! In need of a girl best friend..

Hi I've been wanting to post this thread for a while now
but felt kinda weird. Any way,I see alot of girls that have their girl
bestfriends and personaly as a female i never wanted to get to close to
girls because I feel i cant trust them.I cant find a girl-friend with
the same interests and a girl thats down to earth and isn't
all about her looks that i can call a best friend and as well as her..
My question is how can i do this? how can i break down that wall
of hatred towards girls and find a good friend that i can share
everything with?? Will i ever find a friend like this

 

I'd say relax and be patient, and one of these days you'll meet some cool female friends. But you might have to work on your own views on girls before anything. There are always exceptions to the rule, so don't assume ALL girls are the way you think they are.

I've always had female friends, and for many years I'd only had female best friends. Being a guy myself I HAVE always enjoyed hanging out with other guys, but sometimes it's just easier to talk to girls. It's always been that way for me, and yes there ARE trustworthy girls out there, believe me. I finally have a guy best friend now, though. Met him last year, good human being that dude.

Peace

 

^yup.

 

Finding good friends is never easy, I must say. I'm 26 years old and I only have 1 good
girl-friend because the other 2 betrayed me very badly last year. By this, I don't mean to
make you feel bad or scare you, but you need to understand that finding people worth
trusting is very hard now a days.
The first thing you have to do is make a quick scan of which girls have same interests as
you, this is a good start cause with this excuse you can approach and make contact with
one or several of them.
After this, is just luck.
My advice: be always careful of your personal information (meaning REAL personal stuff)
cause you never know when a person will stab you in the back.
In the meantime, you can count on me if you want
Im a good gal, and always ready to support and help other people no matter what.

 

Very very true.

Oddly enough, I was betrayed by two female friends a couple years ago myself. But then I think good things happen to good people; I later met a whole bunch of girls who are genuine and full of life.

 

These are alot of points that i have been struggling with
for a long time.I will most definently take your advice!Thank you so
much Alternative_Thinker!

Wow thats soo weird because I feel i can get along with guys better
than girls!haha..
Im glad you have a met a good guy that you can call
your best friend im really happy for you

 

awww thank you LeeLooD It feels
really nice to hear that a girl wants me to count on her
seriously it feel nice.
Sorry to hear about the 2 other friends that stabbed you
in the back..They will see that they lost a really cool friend
Thank you so much for taking the time and giving me advice
i will keep this in mind

 

You're welcome!

Maybe it's because I'm a guy that I find it easier to talk to girls than I do guys. Seems you as a girl find it easier to connect with guys, so I think there's something to this whole "opposite sex" thing. But then I've also noticed it all depends on that person, too. Some guys feel more comfortable hanging out with other guys, and some girls feel more comfortable around other girls. That in itself isn't a bad thing. I believe it's just the matter of meeting the right kind of people.

By the way, thank you! It's actually pretty funny to think about the similarities and differences between my male best friend and me. We share many things in common, but he can be more of a guy to act on an impulse whereas I'm more cautious in some ways. He says he wouldn't know what he'd do without me, of course in a totally non-romantic way, which causes me to burst out laughing, lol. But neither he nor I are the macho type, so I guess that contributes to the way our friendship works too, perhaps.

All the best!

 

i used to have this same problem. other girls annoyed the piss out of me and i know they were annoyed by me. we just weren't interested in the same things. i was NEVER into high school cliques and i just didn't understand why everyone couldn't get along, plus i had more of a male sense of humor. how old are you? after i got to college i found my female best friend, and now have several girls i can have a good time with. the reason probably was that smarter girls are more likely to go to college, and even if they're not smarter, many people grow up somewhat and see that all that backstabbing and gossiping is stupid and immature. they also get a little feeling of self security that many people just don't feel in high school, difficult time that that is for us all.
but be advised that some people never outgrow it. i moved to a new school, a WEIRD school in the fifth grade. it was very small, out in the woods, and noone in that town ever left it, not even to go to college. my mother taught there also, so she encouraged me to try pee wee cheerleading. those other "cheer moms" with their matching manicures and boob jobs would stand in a corner and giggle and whisper and purposefully exclude my mom when she could've been helping them. i chalk that up to them never achieveing anything greater than getting their kids into pee wee cheerleading at the same place they went to school. my mom's having a college degree and a job and the fact that she didn't kiss their asses when they walked into the room made them feel insecure. so don't worry about it. it will happen, just look in the kinds of places that more confident women go.

 

Yea thats definently true it does depend on the person!
It funny how things work..
hhaha you guys sound like a great pair of best friends!

 

Wow you sound very alike to my thinking joyfulsara
Well Im 18 and still in high school, I also hate that high school
groups shit! its so annoying how everyone puts a face to their so called friends . So many people there are so stupid and full of themselves..especially cheerleaders!uhg soo annoying Im so glad to hear you didn't follow that crowd of being a cheerleader and becoming nothing else, really all they are, are BRAINLESS. But smart girls find a better life little friends but not brainless
I cant wait to get into college I know i will find friends that are smart and we will have the same interests..
Good for you that you found your female best friend, Im happy for you because not alot of females that you can count on.
Your definently right about looking in the right places like the confident womenThank you so much for your advice