Need girls opinion

Hey i'm a first time poster and stumbled across this forum. I need some ladies opinion on an ethical issue. So me and lady broke up about 3 months ago. We went out for about a year and a half and had a really great relationship. College and work got in the way and we r headed in different directions so we broke up. Her best, best, bestest friend in the whole world is coming on to me and has even said she wanted to have sex. She is beatiful and don't know if I could turn it down, but i'm thinking I have to cuz my x would be crushed and we are still friends. What do you guys all think?

 

id suggest not doing it, but men tend to think with their dicks/hormones and not their brain

 

Hmm, from a girl's point of view, I think it would probably upset her to some degree, but at the same time you no longer have any romantic obligations to maintain with her.

I mean, I don't know her or what type of person she is or how she would respond if it happened, so I can't say for sure how much it would upset her.. if it turns out it bothers her, but she can still be civil about it, I guess it's up to you.. It sounds like you're worried about hurting her so you need to decide if a romp with the cute bestie is worth the risk of hurting her feelings. Then again, if it throws her into a psychotic tailspin she might cause some shit (not saying she's crazy lol just an example)... Is she aware that her best friend is into you?

 

no she's not aware. The best friend in my book should be way more loyal but she really is throwing herself at me. My x still really cares about me and like i dont want her to find out if it happend but i would feel guilt but this girl is also a real cool fun girl who is very attractive.

 

most of the time when people ask for advice they already know what they are going to do

 

and most of the time when people give that response they are wrong

 

actually i'm not, you may not want to admit it, but it's true

but whatever you want to believe

 

Well I really have no clue what imma do, but its all good. I appreciate your input

 

That's complicated then. I dunno.. all I can say is how I would feel because of a similar situation I was in.

My ex fucked someone else like THE SECOND after he broke up with me. I suspected it, he lied about it, I found out through someone else so he finally admitted it, and I was still pretty upset. And she was just barely an acquaintance of mine much less my best friggin' friend... I mean, nothing I could do about it because he wasn't my bf anymore, but it still hurt.

So it's really up to you. I'm all for doing what makes you feel good.. you just have to decide if the guilt is worth it or not.

 

No you should not have sex with her. Especially since you are still her friend and clearly if her shitty best friend is trying to fuck you, she could use a good friend in her life.

 

That's a really good answer. Thanks for the input!

 

glad I could help. Good luck with whatever you decide

 

i say go for it

 

You should not do it if you consider her a friend. What is more important: a piece of ass or friendship? Pick which one means more and then make your decision.

 

Got for it, but If your x gets mad the tell her to join in

 

its not your fault, it'd be the friends fault.

go for it!

 

Yup Id do it

3 months of out of a relationship, plenty time to fuck someone else if theres a mutual attraction. Letting it get any further than just fun would be a bit of a slap in the face for your ex though.

 

I think if that girl is her bestest friend she wouldn't do that. You have the right to sleep with who you want. Even though I would stay away, but that friend isn't really a very good friend.
I kinda find it funny, cuz if you were to sleep with this "best" friend, you would be the one who looks like an asshole, when really if she's such a good friend she wouldn't even consider you without talking to her "best "friend
it all sounds like bull. your ex needs better friends

 

I agree...

 

I think that it depends on which relationship means more to you.