Polygamy: Is it a religious belief or sexual diviation?

Do you think that polygamy should be legal (men having more than one wife)? Would you do it? If you're a woman would you want to share a husband with other women?

 

No, polygamy should not be legal as a stand alone thing. Polygamy is a sexist thing. It is (as you said) one man with multiple wives.

Scratch that as the effects of early morning herbs...

I had momentarily confused polygamy with polygyny.



Multiple partnership marriages however should be legal. What people decide to do with their private lives is up to them as long as all involved are of legal age and agree to it.

 

Chronic Tom, can I ask you a question about your answer? Well I am going to anyways, so what makes it an multiple partnership relationship, and what makes it sexist according to you? I am not trying to start anything, I am curious as to your opinion and what is the difference to you. For me, I dont get into others peoples business. The only time I really think anyone should intervene, is if it wasnt by choice, that they have to share their man, or some sort of abuse going on.

 

Let's look at nature, and not social or emotion for a minute. Nature dictates it is the male's responsibility to impregnate as many females as possible, to procreate the species. That's why even married, committed men will linger a look at another woman, often with desire. It's natural. That being said, no, polygamy is wrong in my opinion, because you should be loyal, and honor your mate. However, if that's what you're into, who am I to judge.

 

from my understanding, yes it is a religious belief. i would not call it a sexual deviation, although it may be a sexual diviation if you mean you have to divvy up the sex between the various wives...


there's no reason for it to be illegal, although like tom said, it should go both ways in that case.

i sure as hell wouldn't do it. one woman is enough of a headache; living with multiple women would most definitely lead to suicide.

 

Polygamy is one of those words that has taken on a different meaning then it's original one due to popular culture. Thanks to shows like Big Love, way too many peope associate polygamy with the more specific practice of polygyny along with religious connotations.

The reasons I sated it as I did (which was really poorly looking back on it), is that any reference to what genders may be involved in a persons relationship is sexist. They are irrelevant to anyone but those involved.

As to that poorly stated first answer....

If I had read it correctly and actually had my brain in gear, I would not have said that at all... seems it is wrong...

My mind did what I just used as a cover above about Big Love warping it's meaning.

I generally avoid the term polygamy, in favor of either polyamory or multuple partnership relationships because of the show.

 

thanks for your answer. I think I get what you are meaning, it is kinda the same as mine, it should be their choice, and it goes both ways. I dont like the word polygamy much either, it comes with too much negative vibes bc of the way people use it. I have nothing against those who have multiple partners, I believe in freedom of choice, of what kind of relationship you want to live in, monagomy (can not spell that word), or polyamory, etc.

 

A marriage should only be defined by those who are involved in it.

I am in total favor of having marriages be set out as any other contract is, with all terms of it being negotiable to the participants.

There's a book title on the tip of my tongue that lays it out much better then I could... I'll get back to you on that... lol

The Moon is a Harsh Mistress, by Heinlein

 

Polygamy is not deviant behavior, it is sexual behavior. Marriage, the State of matrimony, as conceived by the state, is a property agreement.
There are no marriages is heaven.

 

I personally wouldn't want it, but I agree it should be down to the individual(s). I don't understand how one could be in a committed relationship with more than one person, but if people like that sort of thing, let it be.

It can be a religious issue, but then Mormons used to have more than one wife and I am sure Mohammed did to. Times change.

 

when you find it chronic tom, can you please post it, or pm me it. I am interested! I love reading and understanding other types of relationships.

 

I edited my post with it... lol

 

women cheat just as much, we just don't get caught. women go for the best nest then mate with the best looking. happens in nature, too.

but there are numorous examples within nature of very successful "monogamous" matings.

at any rate, i don't think it should be illegal if people aren't getting hurt. but i definitely wouldn't want more than one husband. fuck that noise.

 

See, all of the issues about marriages and such, I find really simple to boil down.

I don't want any of you telling me who I can or cannot marry so why would I try to tell you.

The only restriction that should be on marriages is that all involved are adults, and agree to it.

 

I would do it, my biggest worry would be the added financial strain

 

I agree with that tom I've been legally married to one man for 8 years and as far as I'm concerned I've been married to the man I,ve been with for six years

 

what about polytheism ?

 

Polytheism is a religious belief.

 

Any number of people can already live together, share property, have sex, etc. Why change the laws to get the government more deeply involved in our personal lives? It seems like just one more chance for them to fuck something up and make it more complicated than it already is. Can you imagine a hearing in court where several people are divorcing several other people and trying to divide up the property?

 

This is putting the monogamous framework into what we are talking about without actually considering what is being said.

As for putting more laws into our lives, how is saying people are allowed to marry whom they choose under the conditions they choose putting more laws into our lives?

The laws right now completely forbid multiple partnership marriages, how much more involved can they be?

If marriage contracts were treated as they should be (like any other contract) the terms of dissolution of the contract would be part of the terms before signing, ELIMINATING a lot of the court battle for settlements.