Any girls with live Boyfriends!?? Advice please..

Ok so I moved in with my boyfriend like about
a little over a year now..Our relationship changed alot
we fight alot for stupid things..
Does living tigether have any thing to do
with the fighting??

 

Ok so I moved in with my boyfriend like about
a little over a year now..Our relationship changed alot
we fight alot for stupid things..
Does living tigether have any thing to do
with the fighting??
:boxing_smiley:

 

Absolutely. You now live together. Which means when you're in a bad mood, guess who you're going to take it out on, and vice versa.

my wife and I argued about stupid crap all the time when we first moved in together... now we're more likely to start arguing about something stupid, look at each other and realize it, and go smoke instead.

It's tough living with people. Especially if this is your first time living with a boyfriend.

Humans are weird creatures, all the more so when we share space.

And I just realized you wanted advice from a girl, so ... uh, ignore this.

 

fighting and aggression stem from the same energy source as passion - you both have alot of passionate energy going on in your living space, and when you're not expressing it in a loving way, it's going to manifest as fighting and bickering.......also, the fighting may be a subconscious way of staking out your personal territory, especially of neither of you are used to living with another person you truly care about

 

Yes, if you two just talk and do stuff on the phone things will be a lot more peaceful but also a lot more meaningless.

 

Yeah, it's just how it goes. It's just the nature of waking up to the same freaking face every morning, etc.. it doesn't have to be a bad thing though. Seriously, learn to pick and chose your battles over the stupid stuff. It pays in the end to just let something stupid go and go back to existing peacefully, than to be right and keep arguing.. and yes, this is coming from a female haha..

 

You fight a lot over stupid things? Sounds like both of you need to think over why you even bother getting all worked up over "stupid things". Although I would say that in most relationships, people always fight over silly stuff, but what matters is that they make up afterwards and don't hold grudges about the fight(s).

 

Yes you get too confortable with each other, if you don't save any mystery it goes all downhill, you have to keep things fresh.

 

Thing is we do hold grudges
I complain too much and give him attitude
and he takes things the wrong the way...
Idk it sucks fighting and we make up and do the
same shit

 

your definitely right..We did start of too comfortable
that now we're really uncomfortable..

 

My experience is, that when you're really in love, and really compatible, living together is pretty damned easy. It's not perfectly easy, because nobody's perfect, or perfectly compatible, but problems are fairly rare, and usually work themselves out.

Something I've said, and heard other happy couples say, is "Neither of us could ever find anybody else that could put up with us."

I'm not saying that you should break up right now, especially if there's more "good" than "bad," but if you really feel that way, now might not be the time to be making any long-term commitments. I have a feeling that either things will get better, or they will get worse.

 

sadly it does....do you guys constantly hang around eachother while at home?

 

Alot of animals, especially mammals bicker and fight. Our cats do it all the time. Gorillas and monkeys do it as well.

I believe some of them even have makeup sex.

 

Yea most of the time we're at school but when we
get home we are together when we ''ok'' and if not
he will be doing something else.Thing is with us Im the
more reasonable person and hes the ones that just talk away
nver pissed off and doesnt want to hear it..
I could understand because we always fight
and I do feel I start the fights most of the times..
But I just dont see what are we doing wrong??

 

We use to have alot of make up sex
but not anymore, when we fight is like everything
comes crashing down..for the smallest things!
Is he making it a dramatic or am I being an idiot and
causing all this mess???

 

You might be right.He has told me that he wants me to move
out and that It will be much more healthier for us, but then he will
take it all back and tell me he didnt mean that and that he only
said that because he was mad....

 

I think this info might be useful...
We are both in our last year of high school, we're 18
and we moved in with each other like 2 months into our
relationship..I love this guy to death and would do anything
for him and he tells me the same, and alot of people say we will
definitely make it, but its because we are very private with our relationship
so one one really knows much we fucking fight!
We've always felt so attracted to each other
and feel we are meant for each other...
But if we're fighting sooo much could it be that we're not
meant for each other?????so fucking confused

 

i've learned that giving my bf space or his own getaway place in the house helps
and fighting over stupid things is just...immature,sorry.you guys need to learn how to compromise really...maybe moving in together so early in your relationship wasn't the right thing to do..
or maybe you just need to sit down and think things out as a whole,not 2 seperate ppl.

 

Yea we did move in pretty early in our relationship..
We are pretty immature
We do talk things out we donr it sooooo many times, I guess its
time to really listen to what we need

 

yeah,
well i hope things work out between you two.
i wish you the best of luck and i'll be sending you good vibes
eace:&<3