Advice on a current situation

I've been with this girl for about 5 years and the only years that were worth it were the first two..

I've constantly been accused of cheating and i've been faithful since we've been together (even when her friends would hit on me)

Well i finally got sick of her insecurity and had sex with a few girls since i was being accused of it..

A week went by and i had sex with my g/f and i was really bored, i actually faked an orgasm

Is it just not their anymore?

 

Why are you even asking? Just grow a spine and do what you fuckin know you gotta do. Not gonna give you validation.

Church.

 

yeah suck it up and break it up

 

yeah it's just one of those immature break up back together relationships...

but i like waking up to her... but i am missing out on a lot of things I'm 22 and i don't think i should settle down

well fuck it yeah your right dazed...

 

bingo

 

it's cool man these things happen
enjoy the world and sow your wild oats or whatever they say

 

You should have broken it off before you cheated on her. There's nothing wrong with deciding a romance is over and wanting to have some fun with some other girls; but don't do it while you're under the pretense of another relationship.

 

yeah i understand that, but really our relationship died long ago... so just cause i didn't make it official its wrong?

 

Right and wrong are subjective. If you feel like you did wrong it was wrong. If you don't you don't. Shit, pisses me off when people come with bullshit problems and try to get other people to justify or rationalize things for them.

You know what you want, follow through. Just stop trying to have your cake and eat it too. Cause that's a dick move. Pick a side and go there. Get off the fence.

 

If you were both still calling one another 'boyfriend/girlfriend' and such; I'd say cheating on her is the wrong thing to do - especially when the alternative of breaking up with her properly would take all of ten minutes. It's entirely possible a real break-up is just what you both need, and could save your relationship in a roundabout way...whereas doing what you're doing now will only lead to ugly drama.

 

well sam i agree with, although he does have some issues with people talking about their lives...

grim i understand what you mean, but i think these little sexual activities are going to push me to just breaking it off... i mean everytime i see her face i'll remember cheating, so the break up is going to come up most likely this weekend, dealing with her insecurity has taken it's toll

 

yeah ok it's really really obvious you're looking for validation, like some dude said earlier

dude just be a man and break up

 

It's not that, it's just this guys particular attitude annoys the hell out of me. There is something fucked up in his life, he knows it's fucked up, he knows he wants something different, but he sits here and tries to get other people to to say 'there there kid, here is what you have to do and why"

He already knows what he has to do. You can tell that by his first post. He just wants to have his cake and eat it to. He wants to come home to a girl that fucks him and keeps in company or whatever she does... but then he wants to go out later and partake in something more enjoyable without giving up what he has.

And I just think that's cowardly.

 

So by validating her insecurities by cheating on her numerous times, you think you'll find the impetus to break up with her due to her accusing you of cheating on you?

I see.

 

Grim- I've been faithful to her for the past 5 years and I've been accused of cheating for the past 5 years... she doesn't live close by anymore and it's a 4 hour drive to see her, which i make every weekend or every other weekend, i just cheated on her two weeks ago and saw her last weekend. And I'm not going to break up over the phone. so I'm packing up her stuff and taking it to her on Saturday.

I know what i did wasn't the greatest way to go about it but it didn't feel like it was a relationship since she's been gone

 

Boo hoo, you could have made a phone call, said "Sorry, it's not working." and done whatever you wanted guilt free. As it is, you're exactly what Sam has you pegged for: a coward feeling guilty and looking for absolution from an internet forum.

 

ha you would break up over the phone? now that is cowardly

So i fucked oh well i'm 22 and this is real life not fantasy island

 

So the relationship is so dead that you will rationalize cheating on her, but not breaking up on the phone?
Or shall I go the other route and question your definition of cowardly when you've lacked the testicular fortitude to just contact her before you got your dick wet?

You're right though, it is real life. All the more reason to treat it as such and break things off cleanly; something you really can't do at this point.

 

lol

You lost your chance to break up with her and be right. That's hilarious.

 

I can't tell you what to do.. But you should just break up with her man.

Cheating isn't right. And a girl doesn't get insecure over nothing...
But like a I said... Break up.
Case closed.

NO EXCUSES!