In the last five years I've only had crushes on girls (currently crushing on my boss who is totally straight) When I go out I always notice the beautiful girls before I notice men. I really don't like men (societal views and attitudes) Going to a bar and having men try to pick me up just disgusts me, but... I think guy on guy action is totally hot. I have had sex with a man before, when I was younger, but once I got out of that relationship (9 years ago) I haven't been in a relationship or had sex. I have had family members ask me if I was a lesbian before, and I've just laughed it off, because it was totally outside my perspective of myself. Now, though, I'm beginning to think I could be a lesbian. And I'm kind of freaking out What do I do? How did you know that you were a lesbian?
I think this is something you can't really ask anyone else.. You have to search within yourself. Personally I am bi. I know this because I enjoy dating and having sexual relationships with both men and women. You sound pretty unsure, and a lot of that sounds like it comes from lack of experience. Perhaps you need to test the waters with both sexes? Just follow whatever your heart tells you. Figuring out your sexuality can be so very confusing, as you are obviously experiencing, so I do wish you luck. Much love hon!
