need advice on how to get over something

I know that posting this here I will be subject to much scrutiny, but what I really need is some understanding and sound advice.

So I have been with my boyfriend for about a year now, and I am very much in love with him and respect him. In the beginning of our relationship that was different. A few months into it, I slept with another man. I did it while I was visiting my hometown and I know my boyfriend will never find out. I had put it out of my mind and written it off as a mistake, and it has not affected our relationship or the way I act around him.

Recently it has been getting on my concience however. I have been thinking about it more and more and I feel so guilty. I definetly dont plan on ever telling him. The last thing I want to do is hurt him and ruin our relationship. My mom, whos opinion I value, tells me that it is much too late to worry about it now and that I just need to put it out of my mind and forget about it.

Its true that it is really no use in worrying about it, especially since I dont plan on telling him. I guess I just want to know that it will be okay. Does anyone else have a similar experience? I just want to start over.

 

That sounds about identical to a situation I was in, except I was 'the other guy.' I'm still friends with the girl, and she's doing exactly the same thing you are. I think it's probably the best course of action to take.

 

I don't know what to say, because I'm not the type of person who can keep something from the person their in love with. My man and I don't have any secrets. We have had some issues, but we have been completely honest with each other and we've worked through things. I'm pretty sure if I would have held something from him I wouldn't have been able to handle it.

I'd feel really torn if I was you.. because yeah, it's been so long you might as well not tell him. Then on the other hand.. if he loves you as much as you love him, it's been so long.. that if you did tell him, your relationship should be solid enough to make it through it. It's not really a matter of keeping it from him to not hurt him. What if he someway found out through someone else? Cause that would REALLY hurt him.

I do understand you wanting to not tell him though. To each their own! Sorry I don't really have anything useful to say on how to deal with the guilt.. Good luck hon.

 

Just keep your mouth shut, don't mention this to your bf unless you are planning on losing him. What happened in the past is in the past, A boy could easily forgive the stupid thing that you did before he love you seriously, but not afterward.

Now you have one more reason to love him more.

 

if you told me you got some dick a while back, I say "so".. and your point is"??

 

thank you so much guys

 

I was in that situation.

One night while heavily intoxicated, I just had to say something and get it out.

She broke up with me and her family now hates me.

 

I've been in the same situation. I think you might be surprised that he'll appreciate you telling him.