Hi, Been really struggling with this but I can't hide anymore. I regularly fantasize about men all the time. I seem to be just waiting for the first chance to get together with a guy but I'm not sure where, how etc. I have a particular fetish for guys in underwear and own and use dildos. I guess that's pretty solid evidence that I'm gay. I am currently engaged to be married to a girl and I really don't know what to do. I do love her but I'm not in love with her - ultimately I want to experience men. Any advice or opinions really appreciated. Cheers,
getting married to her would be a huge mistake. even if you're not 100% sure you're gay you shouldn't marry her. i think the best thing to do is to take some time off. explore opportunities with guys and see where that takes you, and if that's what you want. if you get married now only to have this thing for men intensify in the future it would mean having lived a lie. and you won't only be hurting yourself but your wife and kids (if any). then you will either try to repress your desire for men, which will accumulate in psychological, mental and physical stress, or you will leave your wife to live a life you truly want but having lost who knows how many years by then. there's no point to any of that. you should stay true to yourself. you can always get married, there's no need to rush into a thing that entails lifetime commitment and responsibility.
marrying wouldnt be a good idea. actually it'd be a very bad decision. take the advice of meridianwest. i'd be more afraid of marrying than being gay
man, I had to make an account just so i could put my input in on this. I was going through this EXACT same situation. It absolutely crushed her when I left her, but I couldnt stay back and give her what she wanted. It was time I stuck up for myself and went after what I truely felt in my heart. I have been in relationships with both guys and girls, and the emotional well being that guys gave me was unbearably amazing and I just had to pursue it. I couldnt marry someone that I was not truely in love with. sure i loved her, because ireally did, but i didnt feel it. I say dont marry her. Please take our advice, if not theirs, mine, because i have been there, and can honestly say it was the right decision. Marriage isnt just a simple break up, theres alot involved. Dont lead her on. Your not just hurting yourself if u get married, your hurting her as well. You dont necessarily have to tell her EXACTLY why you broke up with her, because i didnt, i just told her i needed to be by myself. she still doesnt know im gay....but just dont lead her on and dont lead yourself on to what you dont really want. Logan
Man rule #24: If you think you might be gay, you're gay. it's no problem, man. As long as you love yourself.
