Girls/Women

The ladies are constantly on my mind these days. I'm 26, so I guess that's normal... and I'm told that I'm attractive and cute all the time, but this is strange for me. It's been a long time since I let a woman into my life, or even considered pursuing a relationship, but come here lately I'm yearning for that thrill of the chase! It's stranger now though, I have to admit... I've still got most of my hair, but it's rapidly fading... To top it all off, I've lost weight (165 and buff, to 138 and toned), and I'm only 5'7" on a good day. Once I get them into the bed though, it's game over and I just won the battle. Now it's just the "getting them into bed" part that sucks...

This is a random thought brought to you by, Me... Glad to have a place to let it out, lol.

 

to sum up your post:

you said:im an aging narcissist who gets mucho praise. my ego has created a shell that keeps me from letting people in. in the past,i've been lackadaisical as far as relationships go. now, i'm aging rapidly, or so it seems, and my insecurities are mounting. my libido has kicked into overdrive. i'm overly confident in my ability to fuck women, but i don't know how to treat them like ladies.


i dont give good lady advice... but i think your whole "getting them into bed" attitude might be the problem, not your looks or receding hairline.

 

lol

 

Eh, at first I agreed (with this part), but upon reflection, I could not.

There are certain types of women you get by aiming for sex, and there are certain types of women you get by aiming for a relationship.

The latter is better for a relationship 9/10 times, but sometimes men can find their taste in women better by aiming for sex.

He may like the latter. In fact, I find usually men that are interested in looking macho are interested in women that look like strippers or porn stars - which are definitely easier to find when looking for 'a good time'.

 

I'm a bit like you. For a long time in my life I didn't bother with women. I find them really difficult, and they just want to play games because it's their way of supposedly filtering out the bad guys. Only it doesn't really work that way.

So lately I've been thinking to myself that I am not really getting any younger, so I better snap out of it, and so I have been really putting myself out there lately and understandably gaining a lot of interest from girls, me being a bit older and wiser.

Yet so far in my quest not a single one has come back to share my bed, and again this morning as I wake up all that I have to look forward to is a cup of tea, a chocolate biscuit, some internetz/music and a weed pipe.

Could be worse I suppose.

Not trying to put a downer on things with you. Just be prepared to take a few slaps and you'll get there in the end.

 

You should try from the other angle, you get a rather different perspective


When you are not interested in whats up the skirt:

1. The instant BFF thing, they spot you and within half an hour they are sharing intimate details about their sex life or lack there of, or whining about their hubbys / boyfriends.........really freakin annoying

2. No use being a good communicator if most of the time you are talking shit

3. And probably worst of the lot, the daddys little princess ones, cute at 16, but when its well into adulthood, its like you've got to be kidding me

In the interests of fair play though its the same with that sookie straight guy little boy well into adulthood thing too.......thats really freaking annoying

So I guess I (We) are the opposite, the older I get the less I want anything to do with them. Course If I say stuff like that everyone will just project it back on to me, saying I'm a grumpy old so and so or whatever, but yeah of course I'm gonna get grumpy if ya keep whining in my ear all the time

 

You're not related to weird Muff guy with the Ostrichy head are you by any chance?

 

You shouldn't just chase the skirt, but chase the woman. You'll get sex eventually, but you'll be left feeling hollow again. I cannot speak for male urges, but i do know that if you can just wait and masturbate you will find a keeper! That's much more fullfilling than waking up to your weed pipe :hat:

 

Unfortunately, I get impatient with discussions of this kind until we talk about the socio-economic aspect of male-female relationships...

It's useless to speak of receding hairlines and charisma when Donald Trump will have more and more beautiful women than all of us in our lifetimes combined.

Who cares about male beauty and charisma? Women who consider themselves ugly, for the most part.

The two greatest disappointments of my life:

1. I grew up in a petite bourgeois household, and as such, was led to believe that I had things to offer (the typical bourgeois rationalization that some people are more special or deserving than others), etc.

So, when I got around the age when I took an interest in girls, I thought my affection for them was a gift in itself, that would and deserved to be appreciated by them.

Lo and behold, I find out that my affection for women means nothing (and, in fact, is in most cases undesirable) unless I fulfill a certain socio-economic role in their lives....whether through marriage or dating or prostitution. What I had to offer them was socio-economic status.

2. And connected to no. 1, was the realization that I had to work to survive, whereas a few lucky guys were simply rich, and were, in the vast majority of cases born that way. Unsurprisingly, rich guys had more (in fact, automatic) access to the affection of the female population than I.

Those disappointments shaped who I am today, and I'm not in a bad place, though a place of struggle. I came to the conclusion that the company of women is ridiculously easy to acquire if you pay (in one of the 3 forms: dating, marriage, or prostitution), and that what I really needed was friendship (which is also difficult to acquire due to socio-economic constraints).

There's a lot more to say, but maybe I'll continue later on. Good luck to everyone, and watch Fight Club.

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Edit: I'll leave this post with a quote from the movie,

Tyler Durden: "I can't get married. I'm a 30 year-old boy."

Tyler Durden: "We're a generation of men raised by women. I'm wondering if another woman is really the answer we need."

 

meh. i can't understand girls anymore. not that i ever did, but it was easier in high school. i think cherea's got it right, for most women anyway.

 

Yes. I'm making a generalization. The above fits the vast majority women (especially, women who pay lip service to "love"), but not all women. A slight minority of women go against gender/class norms because of their own socio-economic experience as productive workers.

Edit: Also, rants aside, it's essential to understand that women could not behave the way they behave if it wasn't for men. It's a completely codependent scenario...When I freed myself from the social pressure of being a "gentleman" (that is, the provider), I realized that women don't have a leg to stand on.

Much like a freed myself from the pressure of being a "good employee."

 

Quoted for truth, because I can't rep you yet.

 

On the one hand, I'm a romantic.

On the other, that makes perfect sense.

 

get rich to get pussy, or lower your standards.

 

you are one smart mama.

 

i don't see the point in any real sort of bitching. do what you gotta do.

 

Yeah, Cherea's got it sussed.

 

Love the term. Not really, but I need to add "sussed" to my vocabulary. Sounds like a real smart-ass expression, and so it fits me well.

 

You sound hot. But, you can't have me.

 

lol