Hello everyone, I'm new here, although I've been lurking for a week or two now, reading some of the threads and looking at mostly good information and responses I've seen. So, I'm trying my hand at a question that has come up recently between me and my girlfriend. Ever since I was going through puberty (14-18 or so), I've always had a problem with erections. I can get hard at the slightest thought/touch/what-have-you, and it stays that way until I can completely focus on anything non-sexual. Now, this could be the end of my problem, as I'm sure many other people have had/are having this problem, but it goes a bit further. In talking with my girlfriend, she has let me know that in all of the times of us being together (almost 5 years), me being "always hard" when I'm around her is great and all, but it isn't that sexy anymore. She really likes it when she can see me flaccid, and then get bigger. That excites her a lot. But me being hard everytime I'm around her? There's no surprise in it anymore (she says), and it doesn't really make her excited to see/touch it, because it's always "there". Now, don't get me wrong; this isn't a dealbreaker or anything. She still loves me very much, and she's still interested in sex and all that. It's just come up a few times where she's not surprised, which is something she likes to be (which would make her more receptive to random sex, something I enjoy). I've heard of the "think of something horrible" solutions, but once it's up, it's up, and it won't go down again until I do something else completely different, such as listen to music (thinking of a song in my head doesn't work) or get on the phone or whatever. So...the question I'm asking is, has anyone else had this problem? And if so, do you have any ideas/solutions I can try to fix this?
Lol! Nice first post, K'2. It is because you are still young, and swimming with hormones. Any physical sensation will set it off. Try a tight pair of briefs, and tuck it down. And some loose pants. If it moves even a little bit, it will go boing. The only other thing to do is stick your hand in ice water. Or think of something like politics.
You could have an overly sensitive penis.Maybe try a numbing cream to make it less sensitive? I'm not sure you might want to ask a doctor.
Well in terms of her wanting the experience of getting it hard for you, she needs to start when you aren't expecting it. I think you will find that it isn't a physcial thing though, so numbing cream likely won't help much. The problem is likely in your head, as in you start anticipating it. The way to get away from that is for you and your girlfirend to spend lots of time together naked and take any opportunity to reach out and touch each without it always leading to sex, to teach your mind that a touch (or sight) doesn't mean 'get ready for action'. Or you can just wait... it will eventually go the other way, and in 50 years you'll be wishing you were still the same... lol
desensitizing cream. i don't know if you have them in Michigan, but i have ALWAYS been impressed with Fascinations' service. used to go in there all the time with my mom. knowledgeable staff, and a comfortable environment, not like less respectable adult stores. i think its more than having her initiate while hes listening to music. it seems more that she wants random acts of sexiness. i think being naked together is a great plan too.
I wouldn't worry about it if I were you. I get erections really easily too. It's no big deal. Once a chick is with a guy who has problems getting it up, they'll really appreciate the fact that you can get "so easily aroused" by them.
