Discrimination you face for having dreadlocks.

har har har

 

http://www.hipforums.com/newforums/showthread.php?t=394023

she has already made a thread about her parents not liking her dreads once

and there are already several threads about discrimination based on having dreads she could have posted in those threads

I'm honestly tired of hearing about it and that is why i started an argument with her about being an adult and respecting her parents

and because she annoys the piss out of me when she starts threads that have been made over and over again

 

I have to agree with DS.Wild Flower should make a thread that says wild flowers dread thread and post everything in there, instead of making new threads every other day. Its hard to navigate with all the crap threads, no offense wild flower, but some of them are about nothing, and between your threads and Naddy's threads, its pretty annoying.

 

So Dreadedsunflower, if she had put this topic in a pre-existent thread would you have responded to it differently?

 

i wouldn't of been as annoying and mean about it and would of left it alone after one post

 

and the title of this thread should of been discrimination wild-flowers faces for having dreadlocks because she didn't even ask what problems other people have it was just all about how her parents don't like her dreads

 

Then just dont look at them, she just wants advice and she thought this would be an easy way of doing so. Maybe she didnt get the answers the first time and she wanted more perspective.

This is a free speach forum website why must we get worked up over things said? un-necessary drama in my eyes.

 

you realise that if you hadn't posted in this thread it would have gone away much faster?

 

Yep but then she would have just made another one

 

the answer she wanted was answered in the first one and has been answered several times over on this forum

all she wants is for people to say oh yeah your parents are completely and totally wrong

guess it does matter because tomorrow we will have 3+ new threads started by her

 

Lol if everyone else can post bullshit topics why not this one this forum isnt about dreadlocks anymore anyways. There should be a limit to the number of topics you can post per week like 1 or something that would be better I think

 

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wild-flowers - i would say keep looking as hard as you can for a job and save your money so you can move out, as that seems to be what you're leaning towards anyway. in the mean time maybe sit down with your parents and try to explain to them why you've made the decision to have locks and why it's important to you, and that you are working towards moving out so that it isn't in their face every day.

dreadedsunflower - i really don't know why it's such a big deal that wild-flowers made a new thread when she could have posted in an old one? not really the end of the world IMHO
maybe she's not 'telling the whole story' as you seem to think because it's not something she'd like to talk about? i really don't think it's anyone's place to make assumptions that wild-flowers 'doesn't respect her parents' or anything else... you never know what someone's life is like until you're in their shoes, and it's great that you do so much for your mum even though you've had a hard time of it with her in the past, but not everyone's lives are the same and judging her for that doesn't really seem fair to me
eace:

 

I haven't read 4 of the last 6 pages and have no intention in changing that, but if that's REALLY all there is to teh story, and you're not pushing your parents in other ways like with drugs, DAMN, get out, if they'd really kick their kid out over their own hair... That's NO ones buisness, it's on YOUR head. Gotta indulge your parents a bit and all, but there's a line where it's just time to be civil, open, dont block them out, etc, but show them you can handle buisness and your hair is a personal choice.

About making a new thread.... I prefer a new thread that explains itself to when someone goes grave digging for duplicate threads.... Maybe she wanted her own thread, that wouldn't be full of people quoting the OP, dragging out dead discussions instead of saying relevant things, etc.... So chill out.

 

I just read through this entire thread and :banghead: is the first thing that comes to mind regarding the whole argument shit. wild-flowers has her opinion on what level of respect her parents deserve and dreadedsunflower has hers. Since neither of you are aware of the full picture regarding the other's home life, making assumptions and starting an argument based on those assumptions is 1) pointless, 2) annoying, and 3) a waste of forum space, no?

Anyhow, to get back on topic...wild-flowers, if you feel as strongly as you seem to about keeping your dreads, or moreso proving to your parents that they're worth keeping, would it not make sense to sit down with them and have a reasonable discussion? Explain to them that you like the way your dreads make you look and that your hair does not reflect who you are as a person. Try and come to some form of compromise...for example, promise your parents that if you have not found a job within, say, three months, you'll get rid of the dreads. You should also listen to and take into account their opinions and line of reasoning if you expect them to do the same for you.

Peace. eace:

 

if she was really worried about moving out and getting a job and shits been bad for awhile wouldn't she have thought about all of this when she turned 18 and/or had normal hair?

just seems like common sense would tell you that

 

This is a funny thread.

And dreadedsunflower, I agree you should respect your parents and I grew up in the North So it isn't always about location, it is about how you were raised.

 

thanks gretaoto

I just feel like people think I'm weird because my advice is normally harsh but thats because being soft and giving someone pity isn't going to help them figure out what they really need to do

I do go through hell with my mom because we have different views on a lot of shit and we do argue over the views but I still respect her and if I'm going to live with her I'm going to follow her rules

I also talked to my mom before i got dreads and discussed all the details of with her

 

maybe so, but again, why does it matter to you?
maybe she had a job and lost it?
maybe things weren't so bad until recently?
maybe she's been trying to make things better with the folks but it's slowly been sliding downhill and now has gotten to a point where it's too much?

just seems like you're making a lot of assumptions about wild-flowers and the kind of person she is for no good reason other than to have someone to hate on for the day?
*shrugs*

in an attempt to make this thread 'on-topic'; i've not really experienced much discrimination because of my locks, most comments i get are positive, although my mother does offer to help me comb them out most times i see her haha
looking for a job at the moment is hard though, i am tattooed, peirced and locked, and don't plan on changing any of those things for money, as i'm no man's corporate whore. i think common sense comes into it though - alternative, more off the wall stores and cafes would be more likely to hire me because of my 'look' so i focus on applying for jobs with places like that, as opposed to big chain stores where i'd be seriously unhappy working anyway. that's why i quit my last job.... i'd been there for almost four years but selling nikes and adidas to sheeple who think they're original for buying 'limited edition kicks' (when they're limited to say... 10,000 pairs...) was completely doing my head in, and killing my soul and creative spark

 

I don't hate her at all I just think maybe she should have considered the consequences for getting dreads before she did it because of the fact that she is still living at home and when someone is paying your way you kinda are obligated to follow the rules

maybe she should tell us things like if she had a job and lost it and how long things have been going bad

in her first thread about her mom hating her dreads she said that her mom is normally irritable so that tells me things haven't been good for awhile

with the way she posts things about her parents not liking her dreads it just seems she wants someone to say "oh I'm sorry your parents are such horrible people. your completely in the right. they are wrong they know nothing."

 

Being outwardly (and unnecessarily) rude will set her straight, right?

Her amount of threads and your issue with it doesn't really justify your argument against her family morals. Everyone comes from a different family, not saying she is right or you are right, just both are different. It does seem like you are attacking her for no reason though.