Just Friends

I have more male friends that female and have haven't slept with any of them. If you only have male friends to sleep with, then there is probably something wrong with you.

 

i think there has to be a certain ugly barrier between people to allow them to be friends without sexual tension. as it is, i get along really well with the males and females of the species because we can all tell right off the bat that any sexual banter is purely silly instead of disguised or overt interest.

 

I'm the same. Most of my friends are guys and it is 100% possible for men and women to just be friends.

 

one of my best friends is a guy.. and i could never sleep with him. we poke jokes about stuff like that but.. i couldn't actually do it.

i generally can't get along with most women... i'm not really all that girl :/

 

All my best friends are guys. I'm more comfortable around guys.

One forgets I'm a girl sometimes (And I do dress and look like a girl). I was the first kiss of another one. He had a crush on my for a short time. We got past it. The last... everyone said we should date, but we always laughed it off. Never thought of it. That's like incest in my mind. I think they are all amazing guys and anyone would be lucky to be with them, but it's just not a dynamic for our friendship.

My ex is a really close friend of mine too. We've been together. But our friendship outlasted our desire to be together. He's a great guy and I am happy for him and his girlfriend. I have no desire to be with him again. So much so, him and I can easily talk about sex and dates and such like any other friends would.

So, yes it is possible.

 

the only reason why guys can be friend with girls and not sleep with them is cuz the girl won't do it or his girlfriend will find out

 

I dunno, I'm definitely not attracted to one of my best guy friends at all... not even a bit.. like I'd have to be really, really, drunk to the point of being incapacitated. I'm pretty sure he wants to do me because he has actual feelings for me, but that's just too bad, I don't feel the same and it will just never happen lol. He is a really great friend though.. we met 10 years ago and were always cool, we have only recently become pretty close. It's a little weird bc I know how he feels about me (he doesn't know that I know) but we just don't talk about it.

I fucking hate being on his side of things though, cuz every friendship-turned-fuck-buddy I've ever had has failed miserably. Thankfully after lots of heartache and friendship mending I'm still good friends with them. Not that I wouldn't go for it again if I was single.. but I suppose that's what fantasizing and vibrators are for.

Men need to stop having evil cocks of temptation and doom...

 

As a guy, I can honestly say that I think about doing it with EVERY girl I meet, if for no other reason to work out if I'd like to do it with her.

As for being friends with a girl, well, I think about doing it with all the girls I'm friends with too. But then again, I think about doing it with pretty much anything that doesn't repulse me walking down the road with a vagina. It doesn't tear me up or nothing.

Now once I had a best friend who was a girl. That was a real bad idea. I did end up wanting to be more than just friends so of course, I did what every guy it happens to should do and TOLD HER. She wasn't into it, so I refused to speak to her ever again (oh how good it felt to be so selfish after being too giving, that's the mistake, the more you give them the more you end up liking them) and sure as hell wouldn't have a girl "best friend" again. Good friends, sure no problem. Great friend I saw every day, not a problem. Tell her she's my best friend, any day of the week. Actually let her become my best friend, forget about it. You have to keep a distance. A man should never give too much of himself.

Strange thing is, girls say we aren't in touch with our emotions and all that, but it's more like we have an ability to turn their volume up and down. When the volumes way up, we can't really hear anything else. A girl will get over feeling that way about a guy in time more often than not. A man never will, even after a decade and more has passed, he will still feel the pain, almost like it was yesterday, no matter how many girls come in between. Even if he could never see himself with that girl again, he will still feel the same way about her memory as he did on that day 9 times out of 10.

 

I like being friends with hot women because that gives me free access to every club and then I can hit on her friends.

NOW, if the chick doesn't want me to be with any of her friends when the feeling is mutual, then it's not me that has problems being friends.

 

It seems to work out okay online. I haven't seen it done successfully in real life.

 

I have with a mixture. I hang with the guys more, but I enjoy the company of the girls more.

Guys in a group can be rowdy, and I am more of the controlled type let's say. Problem is, I have sort of slept with quite a few of the girls who I am friends with, and then became friends afterwards. So I am perhaps inclined to believe that sex can pose as a problem in some cases, although certainly not all.

End of the day, I am a guy who is attracted to girls, and if I am friends with an attractive girl- well then I am not going to deny any of my feelings. Lust trumps all

 

Guys and girls can definitely JUST be friends. I have a tight group of guys that I've known and hung out with since as long as I can remember and I have never done anything sexually with any of them, or even thought about it.

I'd much rather hang out with guys than girls... I do have a circle of close girl friends, too but over the past year or so I've grown further apart from them, but still remain close to my guy friends.

 

Have to ask, if that you in that picture? 'Tis a pretty rad.

 

That's a good idea, maybe I should have given those 1 night girls my actual real phone number after all...

 

You're either repressing something, or VERY weird. In fact, that would be so inhumanly weird I would bet you're repressing something. Just because you think something, doesn't mean you act that something out.

 

but they thought about it

 

Haha, maybe yeah

But then in saying that, these girls I went to college with, and thus, was unable to have it any other way! All in all, they both are my nearest and dearest a good 5 or so years later, so no regrets there.

 

exactly. they want to sleep with you, and you act like that's completely ridiculous, which destroys any possibility of friendship.

 

i think it's possible. i have guy friends who i don't feel sexually attracted to at all. i think it crosses your mind at least once, it's human nature, just to test how you feel about them. but some friends feel like siblings, it would just feel wrong to hook up, so wrong. it probably crosses their mind at some point too but it doesn't have to ruin a friendship and it hasn't ruined some of mine yet, (quite a few HAVE been ruined)

 

Okay, honestly, if you're hot any opposite friend has thought of sleeping with you. Even if you're not hot, in an occaisional desperate moment they've thought of it. If you're both hot and a good friend, they're likely just waiting for their chance. Why? Because to them you rock. Women can be terribly naive about this, and believe a guy they're not attracted to when he says "I've never thought of you that way. "

the only way that would be honest is if you're Butt ugly. Or old.