I have no friends.

You can also make friends here.

 

cherea is actually jesus doing a cameo. it took me a while to work it out.

you really feel like that? well if you do, people are disposable, the funny thing about people is when you don't care one way or the other everyone wants to be your friend.

nobody will ever be a better friend to you than you can be to yourself.

people come and go, world keeps going. there are definitely people in the world who will take someone like you under their wing. just keep smiling even while you're dying inside, listen to what they are saying, understand what they need and want by asking the right questions (you don't have to do it on the spot, have a think about your interaction and come back to them tomorrow, often looking to learn more) and you will have a library full of friends. think more about how others feel and less about how you feel, don't ever make a mug of yourself that can be taken advantage of yet don't be scared to show compassion. it's not brain surgery, you're very young though, there's a whole lot of other people out there looking for friends too. look for the people who need something too. look for in them what you feel inside yourself.

look out for them, they won't be hard to spot if you look for signs of the very things you are feeling yourself. the very best friends are always people just like you, or utterly the opposite.

 

OP: You are a teenager so nothing I say matters.

No friends = No illusions.

You come into this world alone and you will leave this world alone.

You are going to be spending a hell of a lot of time with yourself. Best get used to it.

Your sensitivity is undermining your confidence. With no confidence you are a sitting duck.

If you do not build some confidence now you are going to have a tough time.

As far as friends...what kind of friends do you want?

Identify your target market. Once you know the market it is easy to create a place for you.

How? If you know the types of people that you want to be friends with all you have to do it find them and be a friend to them.

Simple really.

 

yes but easy to misunderstand, especially for a teenager :|

it's also a weapon if you focus it externally.

i hope what he meant to say is don't rely on others for an opinion of yourself.

see my post above

with a bit of practice.

 

Well I meant that and more.

Anyone with no self confidence is a sitting duck. A victim waiting to happen.

Hell I was that way myself when I was his age.

The boy needs some confidence.

 

Yeah. Nothing there isn't true. But we should be directing them to value themselves, without regard to evidence and definitely not relying on other peoples opinion. Just saying "don't be a mug" isn't going to help everyone.

 

i think the advice to get angry and get revenge and all that is bad advice, just my 2 cents

 

we wont substitute for life friends, and we shouldn't be trusted just because we are here but most people here are decent and want you to do well.

 

Ha

Making friends in RTs is like trying to pull a rotted-tooth with a string tied to a door handle


Hotwater

 

missed that stuff.

we can't get even with everyone. there are 6 BILLION people in the world. think you're bigger and badder than everyone else? well there is only one person who is and he's literally rarer than one in SIX BILLION.

getting even is only sensible as an offensive defence if you need/want to maintain a position.

 

what's an rt?

 

Random Thoughts


Hotwater

 

This could hurt, brace yourself.

Honestly, I don't wanna be your friend.

You've come off as weak, whiny, and self-pitying. I want us to be in the prehistoric age where dinosaurs would've eaten you.

I don't see what advice I can possibly give you until you get off of yourself for a second. There are so many worse things in the world than loneliness. You aren't starving. You aren't being bombed or shot at. And the people that are, aren't whining - they're surviving.

Which is what you will do, unless you choose otherwise.

Once you climb up out of your well of pity and sorrows, look around a bit and figure out why people don't like you, why you don't have any friends, etc., then work on it.

 

rofl, the "tough love" thing will work for some. if it woke you up great. if it just made you feel bad and didn't give you any ideas read my post previously, i gave you a standard and effective howto on being everyones friend.

 

I didn't like my post either, but it's how I felt, so what could I do.
I never made friends easy, there were some school years that I didn't have any, but if I let it affect me as much as this kid does, I'm sure I wouldn't have made any.

 

It brings a tear to my eye to see that you RT people can manage to help someone with relatively little meaness.

Well done.

To the OP, there's a lot of good advice in this thread, and remember that most of us have been through the same shit you are going through and it really does get better, if you want it to. You just have to be wlling to try new things when the old stuff isn't working anymore.

13-18 is just a rough time, trying to get through school, change into an adult and find yourself all at the same time.

 

i liked it, just isn't for everyone, nor is my talk. i don't think someone that sensitive it's going to work on (you may have been like that, but you aren't now, are you, not on the surface) there are plenty of people it will.

 

Sometimes making an effort to fit in isn't worth doing, depending on who you are stuck with. This kid may be in one of those situations.

 

dont let that get you down jimihendrix1969..Dont listen to them.
you find a good friend

 

do listen to us, we all have your interests at heart from what i've seen.