So hey guys Me and my boyfriend have been going to together for almost 2 years now and since january i havent been 100% happy because he has become very close friends with this girl and her girlfriend my problem is he asked me if he could go to the girls house over spring break i said no and he didnt go she is always in his face i never really liked her but introduced them to each other she is always saying i love to him and hearts but she has a boyfriend to me it isnt fair because i never wanted them to be close friends and i told him that and im not being taken into consideration with me being his girlfriend and now he is friends with the girls close friend and here are somethings he wrote on his facebook "oovoo is a matchmaker"(becuase she was over her house and they were all on webcam which is oovoo thats where he first saw her) "not on the first co ed sleepover" " and on her pictures "OMG <3" and " your beautiful ur hair your amazing just gorgeous" it really isnt fair i feel like he isnt caring about me feelings i told them they cant be friends and he never talked to her but then recently she send me a friend request and tried to tell me nothing is going on and it really is fucked up cuz every time i sent her a friend request she never added me it has been bothering me since then and they all say it is noting and he loves me and he will never cheat on me but i can stand it i dont want him friends with any of them its me or the friends and im out should i break up with him??? idk and also THEY ALL HAVE NEVER MEET oh and he put her on his top friends but she said there is nothing to worry about but still and she said she had a crush on him and he said he liked her
First of all, if you expect a respectable response: type properly and learn to spell. Just tell him straight up that posting stuff like "<3" or "you're beautiful" on another girl's facebook is inappropriate. Talk to him about how he feels about her and if it's worth hurting you over. Just talk to him and listen. Personally, they definitely sound like they are flirting with each other, but you should trust your boyfriend as well, until he does something. Ask him if he wants to be with you: if yes, then stop the flirting. If not, well there you go. But until he does something with this girl that is truly inappropriate: don't hate on him so much. He didn't end up going to her house because he respected your wishes...
Personally, I think you are heading for an issue. I think it's quite obviously he fancies her. It starts like this, until the opportunity of dating her arises and he may drop you when this occurs. You do not deserve to be strung along whilst waiting, it almost sounds like he is using you as a back up in case this girl does not reciprocate. Sorry to be harsh, but it's happened a lot of times to friends of mine and I wish I said more to them also. Good luck..
Some time ago I'd be telling you to show him that you're hurt and try to solve the issue maturely through conversation. Now I think the best way to get to a man is to simply act cool and as if you didn't give a damn about him. Show some distance, indifference, but remember: chill out. Don't look like you're mad at him; only like you don't care. I've come to believe people love to be treated like shit. If you show you care too much they take you for granted. P.S: Remember: use punctuation from now on. You can never have enough of it.
Seriously, just get the hulk out there to bait this other girl in. I mean look at the little green player? ^^^^
You want my advice? Dump him. You asked him not to speak with her on facebook, or in general and he did it anyways. He knows that it upsets you, he knows it's inappropriate since you're both not in an open relationship and it's clearly hurting you. I bet, when you do dump him he'll go and date her. He's clearly being secretive. I'd say sit him down, tell him that the comments he makes on her facebook pictures and profile make you unconfortable. That if it was primarily a friendship he was trying to have with her it wouldn't bother you so much. But he spends way to much time talking to her and way to much time complimenting her when he shouldn't be. That you don't want to have this kind of relationship and if he doesn't take you're feelings into consideration and continues to do this when you've expressed it's bothering you that you're going to have to end the relationship. If he shows remorse and responds with apologies and that he won't do this anymore then you could then consider continueing your relationship. Who's to say he won't continue talking to her and just be more sneaky second time around. I hate men like this. You're young, just forget about him. Move on, have fun. Find someone who appreciates you and isn't willing to fuck you over on some social networking site.
That was terribly hard to follow. I had to read it twice to understand most of it. I was going to give some advice but I don't want it to sound either too optimistic about the situation and have it turn out disastrous or give you grim pessimistic advice and it turns out you were worrying about nothing. So, I am just going to say: "Calm down, relax, and listen to your GUT instinct." That usually works for me...but then again my problem is that my mind never stops running like a mad woman's enough know what my gut instinct is. Hmmm...my reply doesn't seem all that helpful. ah well. Good luck!
Oddly enough I want to thank you for posting this Designerlc06. Some of the replies and such are making me think about some of my own little issues.
theywereprobablyjustfriendsuntilhisgirlfriendstartedactingallinsecureandthenhesaidwhatthehellimightaswellbesleepingwiththisotherchickifthat'showthesupposedloveofmylifeisgoingtobeaboutit
Facebrick, farcebook, spacecunt whatever...causing domestic problems since whenever the fuck it started "OMG shes in my boyfriends top friends and they have matching statuses!!!!!! She posted "<3" on his page!!what a slag!! he doesnt care about me...im blocking her he better block her too or else hes sleeping on the couch tonight " Spazbook can suck a dick. Either trust your boyfriend or tell him to fuck off...or else send her a slightly threatening message on shitbox
