I just found out like half an hour ago that one of my VERY close friends has been a cutter for the past two years and is, as she said it suicidal. Now what?
tell her to seek help, she may be bipolar or have borderline personality disorder(which usually is the place cutters fall into)im a recovering cutter.. last time i cut was a year ago.
cutting can be difficult to stop. its important there is support and help available but dont take too much on yourself. it may become too much and then you will suffer too. the most important thing is wanting to stop. if you dont want to stop, ultimately you wont. I think at this point, rather than working out how to stop the cutting, its more important to tackle the problems that are causing the cutting. Once the problems begin to lessen and dissolve, the need for cutting will become less and eventually stopping wont seem like such a huge and impossible task. best of luck with it all daisylou x
The best is to provide an ear to your pal, and take attention to when pal goe quiet. check up, but the reality is we can neer change someones behavior, we can only provide alternatives.
i know a girl who admitted to me recently that she cuts i cant stand the thought of it, it drives me nuts, i dont know how anyone can self inflict wounds, thats insane to me, i couldnt do anything like it not even for the world, no way, but anyways i have no idea what to say to her or how to help, this thread may help can someone explain to me why some ppl do this ? why they hurt themselves physically in such a manner, it should help to help her thanks
Um, take an MIW out on her ass stat! If you really care for her, you won't delay getting her some help right away. And since you are the person she trsuted so much to tell. It would be really important if you attend everything with her at first so she won't think you betrayed her. But don't overly involve yourself, her life must go on just as much as yours should. In the end she'll see the light and be thankful you were there for her. Go! Now! Call a suicide hotline, call a local behavior treatment center or go downtown and take a Mental Inquest Warrant on her. Let a professional know whats up. NOTHING is that bad. For this too must pass....
Love her SOOOOOOOO much. When you feel like that you feel isolated like no-one cares, all you can do is try to prove that wrong. Never try to change her. I split up with my girlfriend of nearly two years, who was a cutter because I wanted to change her and that put too much stress on us. Trying to change her will make her feel rejected, the best thing is to love her as she is, with all her defects. Blessings Sebbi
