One of the many reasons my ex GF threw me over was my always barefooting outside of work. She said it embarased her, made her nervous somebody was gonna say something, kept looking at people's expresions and all that. SO is there ANYBODY who has a happy partner who goes barefoot with them??? or is this like looking for that treasure chest at the end of the rainbow??? Most people don't go barefoot anyway so I'm thinking chances there's a barefoot couple out there is a bazillion to one. Anybody?
not a partner but most of my friends actually think its 'cool' that i do it and say they wish they had the guts to go barefoot. but they are way too self conscious
Fuck, it DOES take guts. Kinda takes some of the enjoyment out of it. Like its a habit from medievil times. BUt this is some kinda great barefoot weather.
Personally, I think it takes more of an "I don't give a shit" attitude. A lot of folks claim they don't care what others think about them, but in reality, they do. I've had very few negative experiences, but I still think you've gotta be prepared for the rare critical comment. That's when it's important to maintain your composure, calmly deal with the offending party, and take appropriate action (leave, continue, discuss, etc.). That part's not fun, but if that's the worst thing I ever encounter, what the hell. The biggest thing is just giving it a shot. A few good experiences and you won't care about the odd negative comment any more!
Hi, i guess a partnership is always a kind of finding compromises, regarding both partners' attitudes, preferences and inhibitions. My bf goes barefoot with me at home, at the beach, sometimes outdoors in summer, at some friends etc., but more as an act of solidarity than by conviction. He don't like to go barefoot in town, shopping, at work etc., so he doesn't and i would never try to argue him to do though. On the other hand he accepts me going barefoot almost everywhere i like. But i care not to overdo in situations i know he has misgivings. For example i would never appear at his work barefoot, or attend him to a business/social event with naked feet (but actually sometimes did kick off shoes later). He knew i like going on bare paws since we met first, as he literally stepped on my naked feet then. Probably if had would have worn shoes, he would have apologied and that would have been it. But so he felt somehow guilty (and i think a bit attracted too), so he invited me for a coffee, the beginning of a wonderful relation ... Of course we are not the "barefoot Couple" your are looking out for. But i think we have found an acceptable common ground we both can live with. Maybe it also helps that we don't live together all the time, so each one still has own "spots of freedom". good luck!
I have never been to Jersey, but I think location might be part of your problem. Go to a place where barefooting is more of a "normal" thing to do and you may find luck. I personally think the chances would be much greater outside of the united states too. In a country like New Zealand ( ) or Australia ( ) where going barefoot in public is an every day thing for a lot of people, you'd probably find someone who wouldn't even bat an eye to barefooting. I think americans are too worried about being "cool" and "in" for barefooting to ever take hold again. There will be a few here and there, but we are a definite minority! When I emigrate to NZ, I'll post on the board when I find a barefooter GF. Cheers!
This is one of those age old questions that will always keep us wondering. My last GF was NOT a barefooter and when we first met she thought it was cool but then she changed her mind and said it was embarrasing when she started noticing the non-approving looks I get from other patrons, etc. This lead to fights about my refusal to wear shoes. I always wondered what it would be like to be with a barefoot hippie girl, but for some odd reason it seems like the barefoot girls go for shod guys. Why is this? I would think that a barefoot girl would be attracted to a barefoot guy and vice versa. The only time I've ever seen a barefoot couple was on the show Wife Swap, there was this hippie family (I wish I could remember their last name) from California. Both parents and their 2 sons all went around barefoot, in fact I don't think any of them owned a pair of shoes.
Wow, that's an odd reply. I realize that some guys have really ugly feet (prob. from wearing shoes alot) but I've been told that my feet are normal or healthy looking, and I do dress the part I have a surfer/beachbum or hippie style depending on my mood and the time of year.
"barefoot girls go for shod guys" I guess I'm lucky to be a "shod" guy. Been married 11 years and never had an issue about going barefoot.
I met two women who turned out to be ex-girlfriends (they both moved out of the area) on the street in Greenwich Village (NYC) while barefoot. They were too. I greeted one by saying "I see we both like the same style and color shoes!" because our feet were black. She smiled, we talked and started dating. The last one's mom used to be a barefooter before they moved to the City. She had no problem with us in their somewhat upscale apartment with filthy feet. Mom's were very tough and calloused. I don't base a relationship solely (no pun, really) based on her preference or acceptance of being barefoot. That would limit choices and border on extreme fetish, in my opinion. It's just nice to know that your partner shares and accepts your comfort with being barefoot. This was a while ago and today you never see anyone barefoot in the city anymore.
being gay and over 50 it is unlikely I will find a kindred sole, some older gays wear flip flops and jeans while others (most of the rest I've seen) look business causual (dress shoes, slacks and button up shirt) or at least in this conservative part of Texas.
