My life lacks adventure and spontaneity

I had a talk last night with a friend I hadn't seen in a while and he kind of made me realize something - I don't really do much for fun in my free time. I also realized something else - I don't really know how the fuck to have fun. While his ideas of fun aren't really my cup of tea at all since he's a bit of a redneck (aka drag racing, sinkhole swimming, fourwheeling, etc), his principle was petty simple: he's taking advantage of his vitality and youth, whereas my life usually just consists of going to work, coming home, hanging out with a very small group of friends, and not much else at all. What even made me feel worse is that he's 12 years older than me...

So basically I'm an old person stuck in a 20 year old's body. Halp.

 

I'm 21 and rarely go out anymore.
It isn't exactly the "cool" lifestyle, but I enjoy being at home more than anything else, so it's what I do.
Just do what makes you happy.

 

Be spontanious den. Do sum crazy shit to get fired, and try to come up with a masta plan to rob one million dollas.

Or you could just keep walking in one direction to see where you end up

 

I was the same, but then I just started making fun for myself.

My friends wouldn't budge, so I decided to go out and just figure things myself. I started a sports team, am taking music and language lessons and am now part of a gym I enjoy going to.

Sometimes fun isn't just going out and having a drink, shit and giggle (although that has to be done as well ), but to also try and learn something new- or just socialize with those of common interest.

GET OUT THERE!!

Really, life is just too short.

 

I hardly go out. I like saving money and going on trips

its really all about what kind of person you are. but if you wanna do something to remember, do it. chill and be chilled if thats how you are.

 

What I did when I realized how lame my life was I started walking, and socializing with random people, you learn some pretty sweet stuff and meet some pretty interesting

 

Cool responses.

I guess the part that sucks is I'm really really afraid to venture outside of my comfort zone (well no shit, that's why they call it a comfort zone!) and it's really making me feel like I'm missing out on cooler things I could be doing in life (if I only knew what those cooler things were, rite?). I really don't want to be doomed to a life of dullness but it feels like dullness is the path I've taken or chosen somehow and I literally don't know how to escape it. It's making me feel so incredibly nihilistic and I'm not really sure of how to break the cycle just yet.

 

one of the most beautiful aspects of life is its versatility. we are all capable of doing nearly anything. if you want to do nothing, you can do it. but we all have the potential to at least be great. i was in a cycle very similar to yours, and although i can't say i've completely broken out of it, hobbies make a huge difference. i picked up the guitar a few months ago and haven't put it down since, it is really rewarding to just make some music, even tho it's nothing near amazing, i know with time, it will get better like all things.

 

Are you nervous of meeting new people, failing if you succeed, what exactly?