So lkast night, last night of spring break, me and the homies decided to end shit big since we have been partyin all week. We hit up this dude`s house where we have partied atleast 4 or 5 times this week. Long story short, we all get pretty saucy, and his second floor neighbor comes upstairs and spazzes out saying she's sick of it and calling the cops. We get out of there, scoom a bottle of vodka from my boys crib, and go out lookim for more parties. Everyone stunts on us, so we say "this night isn't ending, let's go to the insane asylum." These dudes in the car have been there plenty of times so I feel safe going. We get there, go inside and smoke a blunt, explore, and we walk up these stairs and hear "STATE POLICE GET OUT NOW". At first I thought it was a ghost, but it really was the cops. We get out, lay on the floor, cops are acting like dicks as usual, we are all talking about how fucked we were. I was sober somehow, I have no idea how but I kept composure. The cops smell alcohol on my friend driving so I thought we were really fucked. They aask for everyones info then call me over. One of the cops was being real cool since I told him I play football for my school and I just got into college. He let me know that everyone that was 18 was getting a trespassing ticket and everyone below 18 could go home with the dude driving. One of the kids had to wait with the cops for his mom though because he was 15. So at this point I'm thinking I'm good. I get home, find out the minute I hung the phone up with my mom she got sick and started puking. My dad was almost in tears. He called me a liar, a follower, and that he lost all trust in me. Now I'm ging to have crazy restrictions on my life, even when I turn 18. I'm also almost positve that I'm quitting smoking and drinking.
dang, that sucks. Shouda gone home. lol Well, if youre leaving for college, you shouldnt be home long anyway. Whats wrong with your mom? is she sick or just got sick coz of your situation?
typical teenage shit... ask your dad what the hell he did for fun when he was your age... parents just dont understand
Well I'm basically all my parents have, they don't really have any friends so our family is really close. My mom got sick probably from shock or something. What pissed my dad off is that I lied about where I was, and it was about 4 am.
there are consequences to all actions. just make sure that you can accept all positive and negative ones before you do anything and then you won't feel so shitty when they get laid on you.
Well I just had a very deep conversation with the both of them, and as for punishment I can't go anywhere, get my license for a while, and I might have to go to some outward bound program or some shit during the summer. But it goes deeper than that. This whole week made me realize I need to change my life around asap. I'm getting too deep into alcohol and partying, and there's no good that can possibly come from it. No good in toking either, atleast in this current stage of my life. I've realized that I think most of the friends around me aren't true friends, but rather smoking and drinking buddies. My dad put a lot of emphasis on being a leader rather than a follower, and even though I thought I've been leading I really haven't. I'm doing things for the benefit of others rather than for myself, and its finally starting to catch up to me. All I do is lie to my parents when in rwality they are the only ones who have been keeping it real with me, and I feel like the worlds biggest scumbag.
Outward Bound is tight, a good friend of mine went on it two years ago, though I can't remember which location, and she had an awesome time. The experience actually led her to go on another wilderness trip to Alaska the next year. I get what you're saying with the party buddies, though at the same time those are the people who are actually experiencing what you are since they make the same sorts of decisions, while that doesn't always spell friendship it certainly creates a unique bond of mutual experience.
I do have a unique bond with my party buddies, I love getting wasted and having the time of my life with them, but what is it really if I can barely remember it in the morning? What are they doing for me besides aiding my downfall?
If the remembering is the problem it isn't your friends, it's just that you need to moderate your drinking more. Social drinking is a great aide to a fun time and won't leave you so clueless as to what happened, though I know for some social drinking is impossible, it's chug or nothin. They are providing you with the opportunities of entertainment I'm sure you'll be glad you had when you reminisce of them later in life, but if you seriously think that your crowd is bringing you down try going a few weeks without spending much time with them. If you feel that your life has improved after that then you were obviously right, though I feel you'll miss their companionship after a week or so, at least I would
That's my problem, if I go to a party, I'm going to drink and when I drink my goal is to get as wasted as possible without puking. I'm still going to go to parties, but I'm not going to drink or smoke at all anymore until I become a more responsible person and a better son. That probably won't be for a while though because I have a lot of trust to repair with my parents, and even when I do start drinking and smoking again it won't be nearly as much as it is right now.
All I see here though is the most stereotypical portrait of every 17 year old in America weekend, you really didn't do anything out of the norm.
It may seem like I did nothing out of the norm, but I still feel horrible about lying to my parents for the past 4 years about everything I ever do. It feels like all of those lies built up and crashed right down on my head. I also don't want to be a stereotype anymore. I'm going to be 18, entering the real world soon. There's room for fun, but no room for bullshit and my life is filled with bullshit right now. I need to get my life in ordernow so its not fucked up later down the road, and the only way that can happen is if I stop lying to my parents and stop drinking and smoking for the time being. To stinkfoot, I usually do partake in close dialogs with my parents on a regular basis. I'm not looking to leave all my friends so all I have is my parents, I'm looking to filter out the people that are there for me when I bring shots and blunts from the people that genuinly care about my wellbeing. So far I've realized that its basically just my parents and maybe 3 or 4 peers.
Humanity is a lean mixture so to speak. The suggestion in part was intended as a way of rebuilding trust.
you seem like you have your head on your shoulders pretty good for a 17 yr old man... youll do fine... everybody fucks up... just keep positive and weigh your pros and cons for every situation you come across that might seem like it would be fun but you know there could be consequences
True friends are great friends. But don't be quick to point out the flaws in your friends who you drink with- accept the fact you chose to do it. It is easy to blame them for your actions. They do not wish for your downfall. Be open with them about how you feel. You may be suprised on who is a true friend, or who isn't. Just a bit of advice from someone who has been in the same situation.
I know a few people who have done what you say, and they kinda piss me off. All power to you for getting off everything, if you think that's gonna fix your life, go for it. But all my friends who did it blamed it on everything except themelf when their world went to shit. It was the friends they needed to avoid, or the drugs, or anything else they could think of when really they couldn't find any self control and were just dumb shits. It's your falt for getting involved in shit, and yeah, you should probably get some stuff out of your life for a while, but it's not the stuffs falt. Drugs are fine, abuse is bad. Just control how much time you spend with drugs/friends and don't let it be the priority in your life.
