how come the girls i fell for were nothing special?

i only fell for 2 girls my whole life not at the same time 5 yrs apart

thing is they both werent that goodlooking maybe a 4 out of 10 (and thats a stretch)

they both had bland personalites-

no other guys really liked them but yet i fall for them?

when am i gonna fall for a gorgeous charismatic girl instead of the losers?

 

maybe you liked them because no one else did (conflict avoidance)

 

You probably fell for them even though they weren't 10's because you're not shallow and model looks were not a requirement.

You probably think they're losers because it ended badly. My guess is that they are neither bland nor losers, unless that is what you are and that made you compatible. I also think you are probably devaluing their physical attractiveness.

 

maybe you connect well with losers?
or perhaps they were both good lays?

 

I don't know. I'm the same way. I've only had 2 partners, and they're both what you could describe as either 'fat' or 'chunky'. Come to think of it though, I'm not really a material guy. Sure I could head off to the gym and put some work into making myself look good, which would in turn get more girls (possibly super attractive ones) to notice me more... but I'm not so sure it would make me any happier. Plus I happen to be in love with my current gf.

Battling it out for a partner is so not my scene. I don't want to have to win (or fucking BUY) her love, I want her to just love me for who I am (and vice versa). The way the world works is pretty lame, IMO.

 

some women have an undefinable quality that makes them extremely sexy even though they are boring and ugly. maybe they produce a lot of pheromones or something, i dunno.

and sometimes, when a girl really likes you, that's a turn on itself. especially if you aren't someone who normally gets a lot of female attention.

maybe you just like fat chicks and haven't come to terms with it yet.