I found out nearly 2 weeks ago that I am pregnant. I'm approximately 8 weeks along. At first I felt really conflicted and was leaning towards keeping it but now I've decided not to. I'm heartbroken at the idea of having an abortion. I feel like it would probably bring me to have a complete nervous breakdown considering everything that has gone on in my life lately. But I also had to take into consideration that I am anorexic, an alcoholic, and I don't take care of myself at all. My plan is basically to have an abortion then put myself into rehab. Have any of you had an abortion/miscarried, etc...? How did you cope?
I think you need to get professional help before you make any decisions. There is also adoption if that is an option that you want to look at. Your health is also an issue. . You need help that is not going to come from anyone on this board, please get it.
You should really think this over some more, you can still go to rehab while your Pregnant, in fact it might give you more incentive to get your act together, have you told the Father of this child yet ???
I think it makes sense not to bring a child into the world when you are not ready. Is adoption not an option for you? I'm glad that you are looking into rehab, it will be a good step. Just be careful the next time you have sex
I am not going to tell you what to do. but I will give an suggestion, please go to an planned parenthood, and tell them you are conflicted about having an abortion, they will tell you all about your choices, and if you really feel that you can not have an baby right now, or it might harm you more to continue the pregnancy, that is your choice and your choice only. dont let anyone make you get one, or make you keep it. IT is up to you!! I think You need to especially get help for your anorexia, I have been there, and it can kill you. I would think maybe an facility that can deal with both your eating disorder and your alcohol problem. these are my suggestions. Take care of yourself, and if you need anything pm me, I have been pregnant while struggling with anorexia, so I get some of what youa re going through.
and about the abortion, i have had one. I still feel bad to this day, but that is just bc I didnt really want to get one. It might have been different if I had wanted to get one. I have also had a lot of miscarriages, they were pretty painful, and emotional for me. but this is up to you, your decision. You need to do what is best for you first and foremost.
miscarriage can be very traumatizing, i dont know about abortion but i have miscarried and it comes with an immense amount of guilt about what you couldve shouldve and wouldve done differently...... i would consider adoption if i were you and not ready to deal with this all, that being said, im sure youre a lot stronger than you give yourself credit for and could become a wonderful mother regardless of where the father is. You dont need him to raise a child, and youre better off without him if this is how he treats you now. its a tough situation to be in, follow your heart and dont let anyone make up your mind for you.
I definitely think you should talk to some people who've experienced abortions before going ahead with it...from what I've heard, post-abortion guilt is very common and can last for years. Remember, it's still possible to become healthier whilst pregnant, not to mention go to rehab whilst pregnant.
oh, I know I would be a wonderful mother and my decision is not based on his wanting me to have an abortion... I just feel that it would not be a healthy pregnancy and that I would likely only end up miscarrying.
I know how it is to miscarry, so I can understand the fear of that, are you afraid of that bc you have had ones in the past, or just bc of the anorexia/alcohol?
This is tough. IN your mind, would you drink during the pregnancy or be tempted to do ANYTHING that would harm the pregnancy? If the answers yes, I personally would get an abortion. Losing a baby from YOUR own mistakes is worse pain than an abortion itself. Ive had an abortion, its not something Id get again. I had a tough devilish 2 years of coping with that. but from your situation, I'd approve for an abortion. Adoption would be fine if you didnt be tempted to drink or starve yourself and with this guy...lose him. Any guy that is quick for abortion without having a talk is a total asshole
Then why not just keep the baby and get healthy? Having a child stops people drinking and does make them put on weight, have a little faith It could be a blessing in disguise, because you shouldn't continue you as you. I mean, skinny people can have children to- my aunty did.
It could be another incentive to get back on your feet I guess. But, if it's going to put your health at risk, or indeed the baby's then I don't know.
*shrugs* I don't know, I guess you just have to look at all sides. I am not a lady though, so I know a little less. I am literally going by this stereotype that pregnant women glow and what not. But yeah, if it is risky then do avoid stupid situations I suppose.
I guess it is just one of those things, where you just have to do what feels right. We can all suggest options, but that doesn't mean they are right. I might deal with a situation like this very differently from another.
