I am sick of AA and Religious people

I have had it with AA and sanctimonious, meddling people. I am sick and tired of religious people or even people who say, "just smile." I am tired of people who think they have all the answers. I am sick today of being told that I don't get it or, "here's what you need."

I just wish more people would say, "I don't know." I don't know what you should do. I don't know what I'm doing. I don't know what to do next. I mean, wouldn't that just be honest. Otherwise, they are just making me anxious.

Religious people are the worst. It's like they think anything they are saying has never been said before. I mean, why can't they just mind their own freakin business and do their own thing. I know what I'm doing. I ain't perfect, but I don't need advice unless I ask for it. I don't ask that much, either.

I have had more people suggest that I go to therapy in the last several years. I mean, are they trying to say that all the therapy I have gone to in the past didn't work? Maybe not. Then, in my case, maybe I shouldn't go. I don't think it's working. And so what, by the way. So what if I have problems. Like they don't? I mean, these people are such freakin experts on their lives? I doubt it. They certainly might consider more humility, for example.

I am just so fed up with people right now. I like dogs and cats, basically. They never give any freakin advice. They just are. They love you, and you can love them back.

I think I'm just saying that I'm sick of people right now. I think I also may have just lost a client. I lost her, because I told her not to proselytize me, and she went right ahead and did it. She thinks she knows what everybody else should do and has no capacity to look at her own behavior. She is so annoying. I'm glad I'm not going to work with her anymore. She's a whiny pain in the ass! (I realize I'm on the whiner page.)

I am so glad I won't have to listen to her complain about anybody and everybody. You know, she never criticizes herself. It's always somebody else. She makes it sound like the world owes her, too. Then she says to me, "but you can't tell anybody what I told you." Right. Maybe even she finds herself annoying. Why else would she have to qualify everything she says with, "ssshhhh.....don't tell anybody that I hate everyone."

Yeah.....I hate her.

Just had to let this go. I am just so tired of people.

 

The thing is.... i DO know, see....

You should just smile, let that shit roll off you, There's people that don't appreciate their consciousness properly and want to give credit to some imaginary friend that they created for that purpose... but so what? if you're better than that, be better than that, ignore them, let them be high and mighty, because in the end it's just you that you have to face.

 

This is what the Whining section is for!!

Feel any better!? To be fair, I agree with you. If you don't think you need therapy, don't go. Same applies with anything in life- only do what you want to do.

I also hate people trying to suggest an alternate path to me, people are trying to at the moment and it's invasive.

We are all as lost as the next person, at least you aren't pretending you do not have problems, y'know?

 

Redlotuspetal I agree with you. I'm in the same boat basically fed up with the people in my life right now,

 

Was I!?

 

It is a serious employer/employee relationship issue. It's not just the religious thing. We are a bad match. I need a boss who knows that I clock in at a certain time, and I leave at a certain time. I do much better with more than less structure. So, the issue is more specific to appropriate work relationships.

Part of it is my fault. I was invited to her parties, so I went. I was chatting with her before and after work, so I did that. If I had said no more often, maybe this stuff wouldn't have happened. It is my responsibility, and I tried, but I guess I could have tried harder. I see that very clearly. It is hard when you are a woman working with other women. The ideal employer/employee relationship is one in which there is a clear boss and a clear subordinate.

This is just something I need, and I know I cannot get that with her. What is worrying me, but not so much, is that I keep getting bad bosses. It is not the first time. I need to pay better attention to who my boss will be and not just take the first job that is offered me. Of course, you know that's hard when you got to get yours.

So, I appreciate your feedback, but it is a little more complicated than that.

Thank you.

 

religious people. Giving that credit to god is a complete cop out, and at the same time gives them control over YOUR consciousness, because they created your creator... see?

If you don't have an authoritative creator, it becomes much harder to determine what's right for other people without having legitimacy issues. This is why high and mighty people that know what path you should take are so often religious.

 

She is not my preacher, my mom, my best friend, or my relative. She is supposed to be my boss and nothing else.

If I want religious advice, I'll go to a religious advisor.

She always complains about everybody else's boundaries and problems to me, and she should be complaining to her preacher or friend or boyfriend or anybody else but her attendant.

She has so much stuff up with her anyway, and I happen to be a counselor without a license, and she actually is even trying to use me as her free therapist. I cannot give her advice myself.

I can't talk to her anymore, though. I know she is never going to get this stuff. She and I are done. I am sick of her. There is no way we can work this out, because I have brought this issue up over and over and over, and she still does not get this.

I am just going to have to go to our overlord company and say, "I need to be referred to someone else, please."

Thanks,

Redlotus

 

Because you where friendly with her doesn't make it your fault if she doesn't know where friendly ends, and personal choices begin, or where personal choices end, and work begins.

But it is good that you're getting out of that situation.

 

I think that recalling AA rhetoric is very helpful when you are trying to train your brain not to indulge in "stinkin thinkin".

I also think that dogmatic jargon increases productivity.

 

The problem is not that she chooses to quote psychobabble. The problem is that I am tired all the time. She calls me incessantly. She (and it is partly my fault) thinks I am everything to her. She thinks I am her attendant, best friend, confidant, therapist, medication consultant, singing partner, glom on to me person, on and on. She has no clue that all I am is her freakin attendant.

 

Murderers, rapists, terrorist, molesters, scammers, identity theft persons all worse than religious people. There are even super fundamentalist religious people who are worse than AA religious people. AA religious people actually tell some quality stories sometimes.

 

Well, I woke up today, spoke to my boss, and she said I was right that our boundaries were pretty crappy. She said it takes two, though, but she said she was willing to reexamine our limits.

I had the best day with her I've had so far, because I left at a reasonable time, went on another job interview, found out that I could get someone to cover me for two days of the week, and found out I could also get two days off but make the same money by working two days with her and then going to another house for 3 hours each day, two days a week (not on my days off.)

This means that I can keep earning money and start studying to become a counselor for the mentally ill. I can keep paying bills, keep being productive. I just need to pay attention to my stress level and keep good boundaries, but I actually found a boss who is willing to work with me on this.

She, by the way, gets to have her own life and keep socializing, too. Even if it isn't with me.

Oh...and also: I get to spend more time with my wonderful fiancee Rev JC.

Love and thanks,

Redlotuspetal68