In a relationshp with a male escort

Edited. I think I said too much. Some issues are best left in the closet.

 

"I accept him. But on the way to acceptance I did a lot of questioning"


Interesting choice of words

 

I haven't read the whole post (very long!), but I'm in a relationship with a (female) prostitute, as well.

It's the second time that I actually start seeing a prostitute with no money involved.

 

So how is your mom





(Sorry, couldnt resist, very 5th grade I know, but the way yiou phrased that, it was begging for it)

 

Umm, two things

- leave your husband regardless, if you're not happy
- peruse the relationship with heh escort, but maybe trying to find him some alternatives to his current side job. I don't think that would be good for your relationship in the long run

but if you can handle it, then just follow your heart and be with who makes you happy. Simple

 

Edited for reasons stated above. Or maybe because I was called a "douchebag". I had no idea this term was still in use and could be used for 50 year old women struggling with health issues. That is amazing to me. That is just plain mean.

 

Hubby has impotence problems but refuses to see a doctor about it? Come on. He's probably just bored of that part of your relationship after however many years of marriage, doesnt want to say so to protect your feelings. No doubt has a girlfriend, and by the sound of your rhetoric a 'girlfriend' of the three legged variety

The toy boy, a state bureaucrat by day, gigolo by night, that sounds like such a line. Why would some guy in a well paying gov job spend the time and effort on that kind of part time job that would amount to probably a similar hourly rate? Even if true, it would be more about ego than money or sex

You going to complain about his wandering when you are technically wandering on your husband, jealous schoolgirl days are over arent they?


Out of all the emotions, you going to satisfy jealousy first?

You have a hubby thats a best friend, so what if its like brother and sister, no one promised you it was going to be like monkeys in the jungle 20 years later, most dont expect marriage to turn out that way.

And you've got a younger exciting stud chasing after you, who makes up for the things hubby cant, and you going to end that cos you are worried you cant keep him in the cage? He knows you are never going to leave hubby

Learn to control and harness that green eyed monster, a little jealousy is good, keeps things passionate, too much and you just end up sounding like a spoiled brat and end up taking actions that dont make sense to the rest of your self

 

Well, you still cheated on him if the agreement was that you should have told him before. There's also potential health risks for him, so...

My opinion: pretty douchey.

 

i think you should talk to your husband about what's lacking for you in your marriage with him... there are plenty of things people can do to resurrect sexual passion with eachother surely? if he really can't give you what you need, maybe then you could talk with eachother about how you are both going to move forward with compromises made by the both of you... i wouldn't be honest about what has been happening up to this point, as it could hurt him terribley, but i think you should let him know that in time, that could happen... i don't know your husband, but it might make him work a little harder at regaining his "ker-ching", or you might find that he would be very understanding, you taking a lover... good luck

 

It's not possible to keep that sort of thing going.

Scenario #1. Husband finds out.

Scenario #2. Someone else finds out.

Scenario #3. Your jealousy of the women he is "servicing" will take over.

There really aren't any other options.

I sympathise, I really do. I was in an asexual relationship for ages. Eventually I left, but it was the hardest thing I've ever done.

 

Edited. I think I will be fine, Lillallyloukims. Love will prevail. Thanks for everything.

 

firstly, this is not a "free love" group, it's a "free love" thread... and people were only offering you their advise/experiences/thoughts on your post... not really sure what it is you were expecting to hear... hope you find some kind of resolve...

 

Yeah, I just popped into this thread to see how your situation was doing and what do I read

a bunch of insults

I tried to help, like basically everyone apart from VG, who is never really very helpful anyways


But if you want to leave because we are boring, unhelpful, or simply not saying what you want to hear, then fine. Good luck, hope you do what's right to yourself and your husband.

 

She re-edited either becuase we all picked on her and I was the worst offender apparently, or I hit the nail on the head.

And now that little rant makes it seem like I'm more concerned about whether I win this thread or not....so yeah I lose anyway

 

Win the thread? I never knew this was a game, can I play!?

I don't think anyone was nasty to her, I didn't think you were either- I just think you do have a very unorthodox and often controversial view that some people do not get.

I suppose I just feel bad for the lady, she obviously needed some help and it's horrid to think someone closed the door on the site because of a few silly words.

I wasn't digging at you, if that's what you meant by the 'rant', so don't worry.

 

Elsewhere yeah, but I dont see it in this thread, especially the part about hubby HAS to be asexual, like there is no other possibility, I mean come on De-ni-al

Anyway, she's no doubt gone now, so this episode of Days of our Lives is over, next up Oprah

 

All swings and roundabouts mate :cheers2: