I've lived a closeted life for a long time and I haven't gotten the chance to find myself or experience many things in life yet. I'm not the smartest guy out there and I'm pretty slow so I'm limited in job choices. Anyways getting to the point there's these small things I've known about myself and I'm not sure If I could use them career wise, tell me what you guys think. -I have a really good eye for stuff? It could be the design of a website, images on a peice of clothing, style, fashion, pretty much anything you look at. -Even though I'm a really quiet guy I have strong leadership skills, I get straight to the point and take initiative of whatever I do if something isn't getting done. -Good common sense? Or a good grasp of what can work? Can't really expain this one too well... -Good ear? I love music and I'm good at hearing songs and what is good and bad, music label quality or something regular. This sounds really lame because who's to say what's good and bad but I can't really explain this one too well either... I think it's hard to say I'm good at these things but I've always noticed them softly throughout my life being in the closet, who's to say I'm good at any of these things or whatever you would call it but yeah. I don't know...I just feel so limited because I'm slow. I don't want to do customer service type jobs for the rest of my life and I don't really want to do labour type jobs. Something clean? I just feel stuck to sum it up. I don't have a lot of money to go back to school so yeah, minimum wage for life?
you'l be fine =) Human life revolves around art. Creativity is the engine that powers our lives, because it is impossible to Imagine a person who is not living for art. This is my concept, I've been thinking about it for a while, and I haven't been able to dismiss it yet.. It's a bit strange to think of because you may think 'what about the financial advisor? or the farmer or the factory worker?' There is an art to all these things, and though these people may not be painting a picture or singing a song, they are motivated to work in order to buy cars, furniture, houses etc.. all these things are the designs and creations of artists. All the things you see in Ikea or an electronics store or even an entire city has emerged from the human imagination! And seperating art from imagination is like seperating cause from effect (terrence mckenna said that ^^ ) Even the CEO of rio tinto feuls this fire, even as you think thoughts or make posts on a web forum, you are constantly creating. You said that you have a good eye =) you probably do, and that is where a good artist begins. May I suggest something computer related? The movement towards computers immense. Our money, the one thing we slave for, is now composed of electrical signals. There is alot of demand for workers in IT, and being an artist above all else, gives you power. Learn to speak the language of computers, and you'll be invincible (well....maybe not invincible, but certainly amazing) You could create programs, you could design web forums like this one, make 3d models, make textures, games, operating systems, data anaylsis interfaces, animations, the list goes on... I'm learning java (sloowly) C++ seems to be a good language as many things use it (maya3d, ogre) well thats one option... if you don't like computers...hey your SITTING at one lol...you must like em XD So much knowledge is free, theres tutorials galore on the net, and libraries with abundance of programming books. well good luck, though I reckon things will come together for you, stay positive
dont get y this is in the gay forums. I'm in the same place but minus actually having a job. save up your money, cut back expenses or w/e, to go to school. but ya gotta save a real good amount. while you have the first semester of a few classes, work and save for the next semester. depending on your class, sometimes u dont even need a textbook. (thats my math and lit class right now)
I work for a large womens retail chain, which for the last couple of years has been at state manager level, a bigger pay packet but a lot more unsatisfying as its mainly a week full of dull meetings and reviewing finance reports. Anyway, the preceding 12 years was about being on the floor dealing with an almost female workforce and clientele, a few of my kind along the way, and a distinct lack of straight male idiots, which I found to pretty much be a blast and I miss those days. So if you are like me and prefer the companionship of the female mind, aim for an industry mostly female related. If you desribe yourself as closeted and unsocial at the moment, you may find its cos those you surround yourselves with arent really your kind of people anyway Its a love hate relationship for me, I prefer the company of females for the most part, but man can some of them crap on. Yet still preferable to everyone else, including other gay guys as I tend to think about sex too much, which at work can get annoying
We seem to have a few traits in common. Except you are trying to figure out a career and I am just working because I can't affort to retire. But, all those traits can apply to almost any job. I never really did a career. I am now in the longest held job (10 years) and it is office work in the developmentally disabled field. I never really considered pay with any job I took - always looking to just make a living and create some good along the way. So, human service work has been my longest occupation. But I have worked on oil rigs, street cleaning, police, and military before getting into my right livelihood. Whatever you do I should hope you do it for the right reasons (and tho you need to make a living - excess money to me is not the reason - unless you have worthy causes to support) Oh, I've also worked in nursing, a field with mostly women. I was a nursing assistant, which doesn't take a lot of schooling, but you must have a capacity to deal with the nastier bodily functions of ppl.
the idea would be to do something you like to do. not just what you're good at --although that would be a plus--- but finding an occupation that involves activities you like doing. just answer this --what do you want to do? and go in that direction. you only get this life, it's the worst thing wasting it on something you don't want to do. i have a pretty good job at the moment, something that i love doing and that's great. i also have studies. so it gets a bit tight sometimes with time, money etc. my aim is to get so far as to opt out of the work altogether at some point, buy a motorcycle and ride around the world till i die.
Interesting, some light bulbs definitely went off. Since I am in a new city and living openly gay now, I actually went to the heart of downtown to the biggest mall in the city and applied to some retail stores with a good mixture of womens and mens clothing today. I was scared to apply to the ones with women only clothing for some reason. I'm kinda nervous to work around so many people and start socializing because I have no life experiences and I've been pretty much a mute around people all my life. We'll see how it goes, I think it'll be healthy for me. As for what I want to do in life for a career as of now, I have no idea, the few things I like to do I can't really use career wise I think. I've never really given it much thought up to this point because of my past.
everything will fall into place, just start from step 1 and get an actual job. and dont worry about a woman's clothing only store/department. my guy friend works at a store called Girl Talk, and its working out great
Bogukyle pretty much gave the advice. Besides, who says you need a career? I've done OK working a variety of jobs to maintain myself. Of course I didn't retire at 55 like one of my cousins who did pick a career and stayed with one company for 30 years but my whole thing has been getting varied experience and for the past 40 years doing "right livelihood" work in human services. Oh, managed to travel much of the world in that same time also. So, like kyle said, get a job and work. See how you like it. Move to another job if you have more interest or if you want to move (to another place). If you come up something you want to dedicate yourself too it will fall into place when it is supposed to at that time of your life.
Hmm I've run into a problem...references. My last place doesn't give them out and since I ran away from home and I'm by myself right now, what do I do? I hope they can look past it or I'm SOL lol.
Even if they do not give out an actual reference they probably give out employment dates. I have dealt with some companies that only give that out and I have still hired them. Good luck.
