I dumped him shortly before I found out I was pregnant. I'm just so conflicted because I feel like it definitely would not be a healthy pregnancy. But I also care for and want what's best for the child so I don't know. I guess I need more time to think but I'm very quickly running out of time..
I'm kind of hoping you keep putting it off until its too late to make the decision...I am pro choice... but the choices are... have the baby and raise him/her with love.... or have the baby and put him/her up for adoption. either way...taking responsibility for your actions should not be a choice..it should be a given why should the baby die just because it's not convenient for you?
You need to speak with medical professionals. You have stated that you have an eating disorder and a problem with alcohol. Both are detrimental in the first trimester. If you intend to continue this pregnancy you need medical assistance now, not later. Low birth rate and fetal alcohol syndrome are possible if YOU are not treated. Please get medical assistance no matter what you decide to do. A healthy baby is only so if mommy is healthy too.
how are you op? have you figured out what you are going to do? I hope you are doing ok. Let me know if I can help. *hugs*
I don't believe the OP of this thread is telling the entire truth in her situation. She claims to be 8 weeks pregnant, which is two months, but in another thread from just a month ago, she was "celibate": http://www.hipforums.com/newforums/showthread.php?p=6212328#post6212328 There is also the common sense factor: she is 24 years old, certainly old enough to understand how sex ed works, yet she slept with a guy that she knew was a bad father? That doesn't make a lot of sense. Unless a woman has her ovaries totally removed, there is always a possibility that she can become pregnant when she has sex. She knew this man well enough to become familiar with his life situation, so this was not a one night stand. It was not an impulse decision. That aside, she has a pretty bad rep on the internet: http://encyclopediadramatica.com/Krystole
It's hard to say but you should have abortion and rehab Although, it's hard, it's better than have a birth and can't take care with him/her.
people saying that having a child will help her get back on her feet... that is kinda a selfish way of looking at things. you can't USE a child to your own benefit (either to get healthier, fix a relationship, etc.) you have to think about what really is best for this.. thing inside of her. is the best option to bring a child into a fucked up situation? i'll be honest, i've had an abortion. i immediately got an IUD put in to prevent that happening again, because yeah, it was extremely painful physically, and emotionally for the day that i had it done. i thought i'd be totally traumatized forever, but honestly it doesn't bother me anymore. i hardly think about it, but when i do it just makes me realize just how NOT ready my life was to add a child. even if i had opted for adoption, i would have been forced out of my job and out of college. i, too, drank heavily before i found out i was pregnant (and that factored into my decision - the first two months are critical to the child developing..) and have since not drank for six months. so i stopped drinking without using a child to push me towards that goal, and have since became a better, more successful and emotionally stable person, and one step closer to being ready to be a good mom when the time is right!
i certainly did use the word "i" a lot - i was sharing my experience with abortion, as was requested. also, i did not call anyone selfish; i stated that it would be selfish to use a child to increase your chances of bettering your own life.
