im going on a trip for a night in the poconos with some friends i only get to see a couple times a year. last time we went, i ended up hooking up with this guy who will be there this time as well. i know we will most likely end up hooking up, and last time we ran into the problem of not having condoms so we didnt have sex. i was planning on bringing some this time though just in case. anyway just my luck, im supposed to get my period that week (its the 19th-20th of june, and if i counted right/my period decides to come when its supposed to, i should get it on the 18th). i know theres not really any way to prevent it/post pone it etc if im not on the pill, and at this point i figure its too late, by the time i get an appointment and all that shit (do i even need to do that?). i dont know what else to do, ive never had sex on my period and i dont really want to do it if its the first time im having sex with this guy too. also last time we hooked up we were stuck on the floor of a loft, we didnt even get a bed haha and its not his or my house so i wouldnt want it to be really messy... anyway what would be the best way for me to go about this? another problem is last time he was really into foreplay, like he ate me out pretty much all night and it was amazing, and i dont know how foreplay in general is going to work if im on my period... sorry i kinda rambled on, any advice would be helpful. ways to either make my period come earlier or later (im open to anything, ive noticed from experience that acid fucks up my cycle) or just anything to make sex/foreplay possible/easier etc. thanks
Buy a twin pack of douche, some feminine wipes, and keep yourself clean for that special moment. That's all I have.
well the other thing is its not really planned either, like i dont even know if we'll hook up or not, it really depends on how drunk we get haha would sex in the shower be a good idea? the other thing im worried about is that sex hurts every time for me unless i use lube, and i know that sex on your period can hurt more (correct me if im wrong?) which also might suck/dont really know how to deal with that either
Unless you have very heavy periods and don't want to deal with the mess I'd just let him know once it looks like it's heading for sex. If he's ok with it go clean up as best you can first and have him wear a condom. Most men have no issue having sex with a girl on her period, most are not going to do oral though, but intercourse is fine. I'll usually limit my foreplay to your clit area and not penetrate with my fingers, not gross or anything, just ends up making more of a mess where ever I place my hand afterward. Usually when we do it we'll put a towel under her so not to mess the sheets up. Multiple postions become a challenge but I don't mind a little mess, so unless you're real messy just have fun and take a shower together afterward. Or as I tell me wife; "I've swam in a muddy river before" IMO, in a way it makes you even more special to me you wanting to do it while your menstruating. That's just another unique thing about a womans body, and we men like everything about you.
check, Why don't you just explain the situation to him, and then make alternate plans to see each other some other time when, "Aunt Ruby," isn't in town? I'm sure he would be more than happy to see you again some other time. You could use this time to get to know each other better. Catch a movie together, discuss it afterward. Or discuss a book you recently read, or current events, "The oil spill," etc. sugarplumplum
its not really that heavy, but its definitely heavier the first day or two, which is when i would see him. ive been reading a bit about cervical caps and diaphragms, would i be able to get one within the next week? since im 19 can i just go to a free clinic somewhere? or do i have to like find a gyno and go there? (i still go to a pediatrician...) also i read that a female condom can be used on your period... would it actually do anything to catch blood flow or would it be just as messy?
i mean this would work, but im not really looking for a relationship with him, i just want things to happen naturally. like if we dont end up hooking up just cause it doesnt happen, that would be fine. i just want the night to play out on its own and see where things go.
Actually if you're on your period you're already making lube. Its never hurt for me to have sex on my period, I actually love it! It feels so good.
That's the way to approach it. If it gets that far just be prepared for clean up later on isle Y Sex can be messy, but it's always fun. Once you two are into heavy making out and it looks like it's going to happen just tell him you're on your period and you're ok with it if he is. Don't even give it a second thought once you've committed. If he says no, you can ask why and talk about it and learn from it. Some guys may not want to, as some women don't, but guys do know every woman has one and we have to deal with it. It's really not a big deal to most guys. But let me put it another way, you get him horny enough that's not gonna stop him He doesn't have to know you've never had sex on your period, not really his business. But who knows, maybe he's used to it or maybe he wants to experience it as well. You'll both do it sooner or later in life, why not now with this guy? Just don't over think it, just let it happen and be prepared. Ahh, to be young again and re-experience all this learning stuff. I envy you... and your guy friend.
yeah, i mean he's 5 years older than me and probably has more experience in general, i could tell from when we hooked up before he definitely knew what he was doing... im thinking it probably wont be gradual at all though, like last time we flirted a little bit all night but not really anything that hinted we would definitely hook up. then when people were getting ready to pass out we just found a spot to crash together and it went from there. i might try those menstrual cups, ive read that they work? might be easier especially since we're most likely going to end up having to sleep on the floor like last time or somewhere else equally cramped/uncomfortable. if i can tell we're probably going to hook up beforehand i might try to talk to him right before and just see what he wants to do
Go shopping for a nice big thick thirsty beach towel (especially if it has a lot of red color in it) -- spread that out on the bed -- spread yourself on top of the beach towel -- have fun! And save the beach towel and bring it home with you -- you may want to use it again, perhaps every four weeks or so.
