Stoner Oppinions

i think stoners can analyze and give good advice for certain situations, so i'm tossin this out there looking for help

basically im crushin on this girl that my friend and i have been hangin out with for about a month now and i dont know how to tell my friends.

i'm afraid that whatever happens between me and her it's gonna make the dynamics of our friendship weird.

haha last night i did the most awkward thing and hugged her when me and my friend left her house and i just couldnt stop laughing afterwards...im sure its gonna make sense to my friend when i tell him. i feel like a dick for not telling him before now because now is the point that things are gonna change.

so question is, like...how should i tell my friends? ive never had to tell my friends something that i've kind of kept out of their knowledge

 

just say hey, I like that girl we been hang out with, I wonder if she likes me. What do you think?

 

haha i guess. this whole situation just makes me feel super awkward. i hate opening up to people

 

Just tell them you've been diggin on her a little bit, and that you didn't wanna tell them because you weren't sure if you liked her or not. Why do you think it'll change the dynamics of your friendship?

Or why don't you ask them what they think of her, and then tell them you kinda like her.

 

I say don't tell your friends, tell her.

 

smoke more weed

 

these are a given

 

why do you have to tell them? they'll figure it out for themselves soon enough, right?

 

i dunno, ive never brought girls around my friends. and having her hanging out with us, i dunno... it would just be different and it makes me nervous to be honest hahaha

ive already talked to my one friend about her and he agrees that shes just a cool ass girl but i didnt tell him that i was into her...i feel like this would have been a lot easier had i told him.

i think im just gonna text him and tell him...lol i dont know why i am making this such a big deal

 

Well really, don't tell your friends unless something starts happening with her, because 1. they may be supportive, which is cool, but if nothing winds up happening they'll probably be dicks and keep making awkward comments since that's what friends are best at. 2. if they're more selfish they may be completely unsupportive because they worry about what you having feelings for her will to do the relationship dynamic of the group.

 

i guess it makes sense and i could go either way

 

Well you did say that you and one of your friends have been hanging out with her, so I'm sure your one friend would be cool with it. Just start bringing her into the group slowly.. don't bring her around everytime you hang out with your friends cause then they will probably start to get mad.

Texting is definitely the way to go in awkward situations haha I do it all the time.

 

good point.

yeah i think i may just not tell them

 

yeah i dont want to be that dude like that...

grr i do WANT to tell my friends but i dont know if i SHOULD. i dont think my friends would try to make things awkward for me. they know i take relationships pretty seriously.

 

it's nothign to be uptight over.
not really a big deal, dude.
if somethign happens with you two, your friends will be the first to find out. If nothing ends up happening then everything will go on as normal...

 

fah sho

thanks guys

 

grow a pair

 

yeah i am not telling my friends...i think that is the best idea, i just need to talk to her.

i just can never seem to find a right time to talk to her though. i mean there are right times to tell her, i have been hanging out with her a lot. i just hate these awkward moments and the possibility of it being REALLY weird ahaha.

im such a fuckin pussy...should i just text her? its so impersonal but its like the only way i can just get it out there...haha i havent felt like this is such a long time. im no good at instigating relationships...never have been good either :|

 

That's cool dude. No one here judges anyone by their sexuality.

 

haha well i'm glad that that ideal has been restated by you, michael phelps. but i'm not too worried about people judging me on my sexuality