Any Ideas?

What I said to my boyfriend when I wanted to move from friends with benefits to a relationship was basically that I wanted to be with him. I think he was a bit hesitant but I explained to him that we acted like a couple, and I had no interest in anyone else. I asked him if he really wanted to be with anyone else and he said no. And he came to his senses and agreed that we might as well be. Wow that sounds so incredibly unromantic doesn't it? In my memory it is cute, in words, not so much. Haha. But this was my situation which was somewhat different because at the time I was 17, and he was 18. And we only really started as friends with benefits because we didn't know each other too well but were definitely interested... But I think we both always knew the potential was there.
Anyway. enough about me. haha. JUST DO IT ALREADY! BE BRAVE! (and tell us how it goes)

 

That is basically how it started with this guy. We've just been friends with benefits nothing before. Thanks for telling me your story. I guess the worst that could happen is he might not be interested. I guess I'll see what happens. Of course I'll let everyone know what happens.

 

go for it. you have nothing to lose here.

 

Whatever happens I wish you the best. Hope it works out positively for you. :] :]

 

Thanks everyone, I'm just waiting till I can speak to him in person. Although I'd rather just send him a text (just in case he doesn't like me, so I don't make a total fool out of myself.) But everyone keeps saying its better to do it in person. Let just hope I have the guts to speak.

 

haha definitely agree in person is the way to go.

 

In person.

 

OMG..I'm reading the thread and I'm wondering what happened.....did you ever tell him?

 

No say anything, he has been acting weird around me. I thought about it and I realized I really don't know if I want a relationship with him. He is really nice and I like almost everything about him. He is the only one that listens to me and I guess I'm not ready to lose that even if there could be more.

 

Well, it's good that your being honest with yourself about it. I hope you are happy and are happy with him!

 

I am and if its supposed to happen it will. I'm in no rush.

 

Very true. Some things just work themselves out. Also, I can completely understand not wanting to lose a great friend because you attempted to make more out of the relationship.

 

Exactly, plus its nice to be understood once in awhile. I always go home with a smile on my face and happy.

 

it seems to me like you have someone really, truly special on your hands. don't let him get away! it might be a risk, but isn't it one worth taking? capture the love, embrace it he sounds pretty awesome, and i gotta say, i'm more than a little jealous. of course he isnt perfect. nobody is. he sounds...a little like he's hinting at a relationship with you is he shy? if you've been friends with benefits, he's either afraid of commitment, worried that your afraid of commitment, doesnt love you, or is shy...i'm betting he's either sensitive to your emotions, or he's shy...and if not...well...go for him anyways! risk worth taking!!

 

I'm still meeting him, still have feeling for him. I'm so afraid to lose what I have with him that I won't say anything. He's still really sweet to me. I still very comfortable around him. Problem is I don't talk to him much, maybe a couple times a month. I know what I want to do but the con that I might ruin everything scares me. I know I have to say something about it, I just don't know how. Its funny because there have been a couple times when I almost blurted out that I loved him to him (but of course I stopped myself because of my fears.) Maybe this just wasn't meant to happen. I hope I figure this out soon.