Right, so both my parent smoke weed. I am absolutely cool with, I've smoked myself, and I plan to more often. But, the thing is, they don't know that I know that they smoke weed. They've been smoking for as long as I can remember, but I think they think that because they have been very careful while I was growing up, that I don't really know what marijuana is, what it smells like etc. I don't know what to do, do I just spurt out to them, "Hey, you smoke weed, I'm cool with, don't worry", cause that would just seem really awkward. I'd hope they would come and tell me, but I don't think thats going to happen, I'm 17 this year. I was thinking of just maybe buying them both a bong for Christmas to see their faces when they unwrap it, but, I don't know. Any suggestions? Any of you had the same experience? What did you do?
That is an amazing idea! Buy them bongs! Do it for their birthdays or something. Then lets us know how it went. Oh god, thats an awesome situation. (and I don't even smoke weed...)
When I was younger and found out my dad smoked, I said something to him about it and he was all embarrassed and shit and denied it. Hopefully your parents wont be the same way! Now that I'm older my dad doesn't care that I know, and we've smoked together before.
Don't buy them a bong. Just ask them if they ever smoked weed. If they say no, drop it. If they say yes, ask them if they think it's okay for, like, people in their 30's (I know they're probably at least in their 40's) do it. Set the table. They'll tell you in their own time.
That seems a little unsubtle. Drop a joint on your way out to the porch one evening; See what happens.
i like the gift idea. look, you're 17, almost a "grown up" being a grown up means finding the best way to deal with a situation. you smoke, and plan to continue to do so. they smoke and are likely planning to continue to do so. a smoking implement that you put care into buying is a good gift for those that smoke. go crazy and buy them a vaporizer, be better for their health. the gift says "i am aware that you smoke. that i thought of this gift implies that i smoke as well and needed to break the ice about it." i was blessed with fantastic parents. i could always be honest with them, and they were honest with me. i withstood peer pressure to smoke, until i talked to my parents about it, and they initiated me too it, so that i could be in a safe place, and they could make sure i was ok and not allergic or anything. awesome parents, i trust them beyond measure, and its because of that honesty. there are tons of other examples but i think you get the picture. this is a great time to forge your 'adult' relationship with your parents, and giving them a well planned gift that is clever, and practical is a great way to do that. if nothing else you'll have a good laugh at the look on their faces. have a camera handy, and a bowl broken up.
i honestly dont think the gift idea is necessary. if everythings going fine, why even make their smoking an issue. maybe they would rather you dnt know so your friends and friends parents find out.. think about their stance as parents cus wen i found out bout my ma and dad, i sorta gave them a bad image without even knowing it. like i told all my friends and shit and OF COURSE every1 in my like town knew partys and gatherings at my house involved drugs/alchy LOL. i feel really bad about it now..whatev. im gonna go ask my dad if he wants to smoke now LOL
my parents really were great while i was growing up. if more people were raised like me i think there would be less societal problems. its a parents job to teach you about the world, and how to live in it, not shelter you from it, give you everything and then kick you to the curb when you turn 18 with no life skills, no focus, and a very difficult "learning on the fly" period" with no one to guide you. pretty fucked up way to send people into the world, no map, no compass. "The truth is obedience and respect should not be automatic, they should be earned; they should be based on the parent's performance. Parents performance. Allright? some parents deserve respect, most of them don't-period." ~George Carlin and as far as telling people about parents' habits, when you are raised with respect, and when you respect your parents (ie, they earn your respect as well) you know better than to mention such things to outsiders. you protect your family first. you know what real trust is. im not saying you cant tell a trusted friend, but don't confuse trust with friendship. i have friends i wouldn't trust the information to, hell, i have family i wouldnt entrust the information to!
