Dating a girl who lives about 40 minutes away?

Discussion in 'Relationships' started by Pixelpirate, Jun 1, 2010.

  1. Pixelpirate

    Pixelpirate Member

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    I just wanted some of your opinions on this. Since I've never seen anyone who lives less than 10 minutes away (although none of those were real relationships), but 40 minutes really doesn't seem that bad to me, and it's a really easy drive. But I want to get some other opinions because this girl and I have a lot in common and it seems like I could really fall for her, but I would hate to get emotionally attached and then have call it off because of the distance. I think it should also be noted that I don't exactly have a long line of girls who are willing to date me, and I've never been more interested in someone than I am with her.
     
  2. The Imaginary Being

    The Imaginary Being PAIN IN ASS Lifetime Supporter

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    People on here have dated between states on this site, and they seemed really happy.

    Don't worry about the distance, enjoy your relationship!
     
  3. SweetBlasphemy

    SweetBlasphemy Senior Member

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    40 minutes ain't shit. I drive that far, or farther to hang out with friends multiple times a week...
     
  4. The Imaginary Being

    The Imaginary Being PAIN IN ASS Lifetime Supporter

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    loser :p
     
  5. bluedragonfly

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    Haha I have to agree that 40 minutes really isn't anything, but I live 45 minutes outside the city we go to do anything.. so it's something I'm used to and I guess some people can't be. People are constantly dating each other when one lives in the city and one out here or something like that. :)

    As for me.. I'm in one of those between state couples. Indiana - Virgina. I can honestly tell you I am not positive if I'll see him or not until he moves here next Feb.. it's hard for us to see each other, and if I do get to see him before he is finally with me.. it'll be once and for a short period of time. (That makes it sound like I've NEVER seen him.. lol, the last time was in April. I don't believe we could wait on each other if it was otherwise, hehe :p)

    Anywayyyy I'm obviously a believer that no matter the distance you should give it a chance! :)
     
  6. Bad.Fish

    Bad.Fish Sex wee pon de babylon

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    Ive only ever had one relationship locally, all th others have been from the city which is a 50 minute hitch away. The city relationships have always been much easier as we have had our own personal time away from each other very few days which I think is necessary in a relationship.

    The only problems Ive had with girlfriends has been the only local one I had which only lasted 3 weeks. A bit of distance is usually good as far as Im concerned.
     
  7. I'minmyunderwear

    I'minmyunderwear Newbie

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    i drive 30 minutes to work. i would have no problem going an extra 10 minutes for sex.
     
  8. guerillabedlam

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    yah i dated a girl about 40 minutes away. I actually preferred it. It means you can still hang out with friends or do whatever activities you like to do and can still see her pretty much every weekend if you wish. I never got the feeling of being smothered as I sometimes do with closer relationships and its not so far that I feel extremely distant from the person either. Also if you both drive you can meet 1/2 way and its not really all that different then a regular same city relationship.
     
  9. SweetBlasphemy

    SweetBlasphemy Senior Member

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    lol I know, my friends only like me for my reliable mode of transportation :(
     
  10. ~*hempy ∞ empires*~

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    Yes I'd agree that you should go for it. I am also in a long distance relationship currently and while difficult, it's definitely worth it. and I don't even get to see my girl hardly ever, because instead of 40 minutes, it's more like 9 hours :(
    so yeah I'd jump on that opportunity... I WISH my woman lived a mere 40m from me
     
  11. I'minmyunderwear

    I'minmyunderwear Newbie

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    i don't know, 40 meters might be a bit too close...
     
  12. CrazyDreamer

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    I say go for it. Throw on some good music and enjoy the ride going out to where she is.
     
  13. Carlfloydfan

    Carlfloydfan Travel lover

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    Sometimes it is a 40-60 minute bus ride within the city I am currently in, to get from point A to point B. Pretty normal if you ask me.
     
  14. Pixelpirate

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    Good responses, thanks guys! :cheers2:
     
  15. la Principessa

    la Principessa Member since '08

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    You should definitely stick it out if you two get along so well. You can always take turns having her come to you, and you go to her.

    My current boyfriend of a year lives 2 HOURS away and he tries his best to see me as often as possible until he can move down here. If things go really well with your girl, you can always move closer or even move in together. Good luck :)
     
  16. psychedelicg1rl

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    I have been away from my man for 2 month and 7 month periods, while he was in another country, so yes 40 minutes is nothing and if you want to make it work you can. You just have to be willing to drive a lot, and call a lot etc. that is really notmuch of an distance.
     
  17. wallflower23

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    stick with it! me and my bf live 3 hours apart and its pretty easy to visit even that far. Everything is going great with us...distance isnt a problem. for the times you cant visit...theres always skype... :X
     
  18. spexxx

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    whats 40 Minutes to real love my Maynneeee
     
  19. donnawoz

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    My guy was kinda 40 mins plus away from me, when we started but he moved closer afterwards and we got closer in our relationship.
     

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