how open can a relationship be??

hello to the wise ones,
i live in apolyamourous relationship for nearly 2 years now. we decided to live that way, because we' re both bi and we didnt want to make too many borders that forbid to live life as it comes... we both had sex with other ppl allready, often even together and it was amazing. one time i got a jealousy- problem because of a girl who nearly had sex with my sweety, guess its harder for me, when its about women. my boyfriend is absulutely never jealous. we found, that many relationships die on the forbidden things and we think if u love each other you want your partner to be happy. we wish to find more people who are looking for this kind of relationship, but it isnt easy, as there arent many ppl who understand the idea of a great loving family. most ppl just see the sex part.

does anyone of you have experience with similar lifestyles??
please tell me, because i'd love to hear opinions of people who tried or experienced sth like that!!

lots of hugs!!

 

the rules for girls are not the same as the rules for guys whether its either open or closed relationships

 

Meaning?

 

yap, girls are different lol but does it really have to be that way??

 

come back to this thread in ten years, see how your attitude has changed, if you two have still have the same deal he'll have an even easier time finding playmates, whereas you.....well


No one ever says out loud what is really all about

 

A relationship can be as open as you are willing for your every attitude to be exposed.

 

might be, but till there i hope to have more than one person sharing my life and i can still find me a lady like myself in every age i hope

 

oh, and my boyfriend prefers boys anyway, so im full of hope (in the end thats all i can do anyway) lol

 

Every open relationship I have seen seemed to be high maintenance. Altho our species is not naturally meant to be monogamous, there are jealousies that take place - seems to be a given. (Maybe more studies of Bonobos to see how they resolve that)

My wife and I never had an open relationship but she knew I would wander, especially with the guys who were not a threat as they took care of a part of me that she could not do. On 2 occasions I got enamored of women and she was most concerned about how it affected our relationship.

I would think that poly relationships take a lot of intimate communication and honest expression of what bothers you. Also, what turns you on about another person and how it does not threaten the core relationship of whatever number of connected ppl.

 

I think that we exhibit every kind, the chimpanzee as well as the bonobo, the lizard as well as the Harvard graduate.

I am in a relationship with two people. We are doing exceedingly well. It takes courage to apply the necessary honesty. Any withheld resentment quickly becomes a knife that slices and dices better than any as seen on tv device.
What I give to one I also give to the other, we consider each other equally.

 

same as i thought, til now. we talk a lot, and it is hard sometimes, but if we notice theres sth not said we are really penetrant til the thoughts are shared, discussed and solved with girls its really harder to me, dunno y, but for me it is sth i want to try to work on. and we got the rule in case one feels unpleasant with it, we can still decide to turn back to mono, but its not what we want

 

We do not support emotional hysteria, fear is a liar.

 

I think open-relationships work awesome depending on what you and your partner are looking for. I used to date a dude in one and his girlfriend was a friend of mine and she was totally cool with us being together, and I was totally cool with them being together lol. Him and I are still good friends too.
I have also been in a long-distance-open while him or I were away, which work pretty well until I noticed we connected super well and I doubt we would have worked due to our lifestyles.

I am weird about relationships as it is, I am young and the relationships I have been in I veiw mostly as pety, and most likely will be pety until I find whatever, 'the one' lolz. Before I even aknowledged open relationship I was being cheated on and stuff so it totally killed down the whole betrayal portion of being with someone. When I do find "the one" though the rules totally change haha.

 

good luck for finding the one and thanx for the hopeful words

 

my poor wife i am an american an old hippy blah blah blah shes asian only had 1 guy in her life we have 3 kids the other night when lady gaga flipped off the cameras i lost it i was over in yahooka running round dropping and measuring well she aint never been any where, hell i was in here telling the guys to lets meet up in here later tonight and we'll do the same she has never been nude in public tries to tell me there are only a few hookers in maila no nude beaches a few hookers u get the picture but she just laughed and said well thats my hubby oh we need some fresh blood over in yahooka come on over and get sighned in its suppose to be a pot chat box u know y-a-h-o--o-k-a heres a link its www.yahooka.com my nick is the same over there and yes we need some fresh blood come on over its summer lets get naked blahhh oh tell merc or spanky that i said hey hey those 2 are like my kids maybe this belongs in the naked forum but i dont follow rules that good ops feel free to move this around i am not gay i use to have a wife though that had lesbo leanings he he so i feel ya but allowing other peeps in between you sans yeah we yanks are just as crazy as the germans when it comes right down to it he he hey its hot anybody want to drop and measure?? he he he he

 

The reason I think most open relationships eventually falter is the fact that the more people you have involved in your relationship the more complicated that relationship becomes. I'm not knocking the open relationship thing but let's put it this way. I am currently in a monogomus relationship. Just as a point of being human I have my issues. At the same time she has her issues. And together we have our issues. We manage and compromise and come to agreements (including to agree to disagree) regarding the boundaries of our relationship. Now if we opened our relationship than each person we add adds another set of issues and another set of complications to our relationship. The more people the more complications. I much perfer the somewhat simple (yet complex) nature of the relationship that I am in.

Peace Out,
Rev J

 

Which is why, after my two decade relationship ended, I have been quite content to lead a simple, uncomplicated, single life.

 

I think what you're looking for is an escape route.
Be free.

 

to reverand jc: oh yes, its complicated the way you describe it...
im very lucky, that my boyfriend and me try to have no rules, just taking care of each other. we try not to hurt each other and thats all the rules we have, but because of that it is very hard for us, to find people who feel the same, because many very kind people are caught in their fears and wouldnt feel well without certain rules, so its difficult to find a match :? but im still full of hope and i guess i would give it a try anyway, if i would fall in love seriously..